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Goal in focus Publish my book 2 people are doing this
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  • flutterbyyou
    flutterbyyou Doing 5 cheers 2017-05-18 05:25:11

    I think I did it! Of course every author think there work is amazing and should become the next best seller... Right?

    I finished my first query letter and I'm sending it first thing tomorrow and I'll know within 30 to 60 days

    As much as I think I've done a great job. I would be amazed if my first query letter, for my first novel was met with a positive response.

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  • flutterbyyou
    flutterbyyou Doing 4 cheers 2017-05-01 16:42:23

    Shine
    [shahyn]
    verb (used without object), shone or shined, shining.

    1. to give forth or glow with light; shed or cast light.

    2. to be bright with reflected light; glisten; sparkle.

    3. (of light) to appear brightly or strongly, especially uncomfortably so: Wear dark glasses so the sun won't shine in your eyes.

    this is my goal.
    mainly definitions 2 to be bright with reflected light; glisten; sparkle.

    to reflect God's light for all to see.
    reflect being the operative word.
    not my own light, but His.
    I want to be immersed in His light and love. to be filled so full that I glisten, shine and sparkle in a way that draws others to Him. not in a way that looks judgmental or pushes people away, but in a way that makes people say "hey, what do you have and how can I have it"
    we all have our hurts and flaws. we're all broken.
    God's light and love is what heals.
    I want to reflect that light, love and healing to all those around me.
    ~flutter~

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Lose weight 363 people are doing this
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  • flutterbyyou
    flutterbyyou Doing 10 cheers 2017-05-01 18:40:26

    eating has always been a hurdle for me. I've had an eating disorder since high school. for many years it was anorexia. those of you that were my friends back on the old days of 43t will probably remember my struggle and how I was able to finally start eating.
    well, when I started eating I wasn't able to control that either, and now I'm at 200 lbs. that's quite a lot for someone as short as I am.
    my problem is magnafied by my anorexia. when I try to go on a diet, I stop eating altogether.
    I need to find the balence
    you helped me before, 43 friends, I need your help again.

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    • spatz
      spatz 3 cheers 2017-05-01 18:50:40

      @flutterbyyou I'm sure you can do it!

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    • ligemst
      ligemst 2 cheers 2017-05-01 19:07:16

      @flutterbyyou We're here for you. You can get back on track and have balance again.

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    • bob1623
      bob1623 4 cheers 2017-05-02 00:18:44

      @flutterbyyou I will help you any way I can, and any way you need.

      I know losing weight is not easy, but I have faith in you, and that you will figure it out.

      Just keep at it and don't give up.

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    • aenea
      aenea 3 cheers 2017-05-02 04:14:02

      @flutterbyyou I struggled with eating disorders for several years when I was younger, and in some ways still do. It's kind of a constant awareness that I live with and have grown accustomed to. I could still easily become that version of myself again, and every moment of every day I feel like I have to make a conscious choice not to. It has gotten easier with time, but it's not something I will ever forget.

      The key to relief for me, and the hardest part as well, was just being present for myself and observing what I was doing and allowing myself to stop, or not, without judgement.

      I know these things can feel very isolating and I usually assume that not everyone has the same experience as me. But if my words can help at all, I'm here for you.

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    • ExplorerSoul
      ExplorerSoul 0 cheers 2017-06-13 05:48:51

      @flutterbyyou Could it help to redefine what the word diet means to you? Rather than it being connected to weight loss, maybe it can just be about the foods that you regularly consume, which at its core, is what diet really is. If this is too hard to separate, maybe you can eliminate the word altogether. Eliminate the idea of going on any kind of diet, and instead make healthier choices the focus.

      I think it's so wonderful that you were able to start eating again and I'm sure this couldn't have been easy. I hope you can continue to nourish your body in a healthy way so that it can continue to serve you on your journey through this life.

      Often weight loss can come from small, simple changes, e.g. reducing portion size a bit at each meal (e.g.: smaller plate or not going in for a second serving) or, rather than giving up food altogether, choosing to let go of certain foods that aren't serving us (or even just having them less often).

      Can I ask, do you enjoy food now?

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take the stairs 1 person is doing this
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  • flutterbyyou
    flutterbyyou Doing 2 cheers 2017-05-18 06:39:38

    I've been doing this at work. It's the only place I've gone in awhile that has more than one level. Just having this on my goal list is helping me.

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  • flutterbyyou
    flutterbyyou Doing 2 cheers 2017-05-03 03:16:10

    to all of you fiction reader out there in 43things land

    Do you like to see an epilog at the end of a book?
    why or why not?

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    • celticchristian
      celticchristian Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-03 04:40:59

      @flutterbyyou It depends upon how the epilogue fits in with the rest of the story. If it adds something I view that as a positive but if it comes off as a bit random and unrelated I think it would be better to leave it out.

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      • flutterbyyou
        flutterbyyou Doing 0 cheers 2017-05-03 23:05:53

        @celticchristian it going along with the book but I'm just not sure if I should make it the last chapter or an epilogue

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        • celticchristian
          celticchristian Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-03 23:19:59

          @flutterbyyou Can the novel still function as a complete story if you leave out the last chapter? I always thought the epilogue was more of additional insight into the story, such as the characters looking back to the ending sometime in the future. Other types of epilogues are a change in format, like a letter or journal entry that a character wrote in reflection to the events of the story. So if it is a question of if you should label it as an epilogue or not it is probably best to just leave it as the last chapter.

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          • flutterbyyou
            flutterbyyou Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-04 02:38:08

            @celticchristian an epilogue adds additional information in some form. I could write it either way. The last chapter, of I write it as that, needs to be in the book because it wraps up and answers a question that was aksed in the beginning of the book about the main character, but it takes place two or three months from the chapter before it. So it could really be written either way

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    • MayKasaharawithalongtail
      MayKasaharawithalongtail Doing 2 cheers 2017-05-04 18:04:27

      @flutterbyyou If it enhances the reader's experience of the book in some way, then yes. An epilogue doesn't have to tie all loose ends together, but sometimes it makes more sense of them. 🙂 :-)

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    • Airos
      Airos Done 1 cheers 2017-05-05 01:07:23

      @flutterbyyou I generally like epilogues. I get invested in the characters and like a little window into what happened to them.

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    • spyrunner
      spyrunner Doing 0 cheers 2017-05-06 12:00:59

      @flutterbyyou I love epilogues. It lets you know the long term conclusion.

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  • flutterbyyou
    flutterbyyou Doing 2 cheers 2017-04-28 17:20:25

    One of my favorite things about the old 43t was that I was able to get on the site from work when all other social media sites were blocked.
    So how about now?
    Are you able to get on social media sites from work?
    Can you get on 43t if you're other social media sites are blocked?

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