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    citrus Doing 1 cheers 2017-08-20 16:32:00

    This goal is waiting patiently for me.

    The camping trip to France was a success.

    Good talks with the guy; hard to do but good and necessary.

    Strange but true: I welcome the impatience inside me because it may give rise to some overdue action.

    Brace yourself: Fall is coming. And I love it.

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    citrus Doing 3 cheers 2017-07-23 20:59:33

    Sunday July 23

    Being old. That may sound weird but I feel like I have dropped so much of the angst with which I have lived for too long. These days I choose the fucks I give more wisely - and thus more sparingly.

    Dancing with the minions which is a lot like dancing like nobody's watching because they both do their thing and I do mine. Especially the 'youngest' (they're twins so it's relative, so to speak) goes completely her own way and does this highly expressive dance with facial expressions and all. It's amazing.

    Went looking for tent shopping today and the guy and I agreed on stuff. We are both exhausted and the kids were very present today but we didn't argue about anything and felt we were thinking along the same lines. I just hope the tent we want is still there when we get around to buying it.

    The end of socialising. The end of the school year is a grand parade of children's parties with matching parents meeting, goodbye things, school picknicks, etc. and I am all socialised out. As an extraverted introvert (it exists) being social costs me more energy than I get from it anyway but I need the human contact too. So... just glad it's done.

    The rich tapestry of americana music. The North American musical landscape is fascinating and I love exploring it. I am the kind of nerd who digs into the Smithsonian archives for obscure early versions of songs that are still around. :D

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    citrus Doing 3 cheers 2017-07-22 09:28:57

    Saturday July 22

    Continuing this goal guilt-free after not posting for a few days because I am acknowledging that it takes some time to incorporate a new habit.

    Start of the summer holiday for the minions.

    Some plans for our patchwork holiday are materializing. A bit of Disney Paris, maybe a weekend with friends and the minions, perhaps a week flying to some warm island. We will see.

    The guy is a little more positive with the end of his work in sight. It may not be ideal but we have some certainties now and that is nice.

    We are able to purchase the car from the lease company at a reasonable rate. At least we will reach Paris.

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    citrus Doing 3 cheers 2017-07-19 10:06:35

    On Wednesday July 19 I am grateful for:

    Wednesday morning coffee. I will miss it during the holidays. And I am grateful that they waited for me and had another coffee after I joined them.

    The minion does not have gluten or lactose allergies/intolerances. It was a long shot but one that I am glad missed.

    The minion expressing a desire to stay home with me but changing her mind when I pointed out that she would not be able to play with the school friends. I love how she can find so much joy that she needs to choose which one she prefers. ;-)

    Another day another chance for the guy's work situation. This means talks with a lawyer and putting pressure on the curator to just blow the whole thing up. (Fingers crossed!)

    Thunderstorms are expected this evening. I love thunderstorms. Also, I get to stay home and cocoon guilt-free.

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    citrus Doing 1 cheers 2017-07-19 09:59:24

    On Tuesday July 18 I was definitely grateful for:

    The minions' 7th birthday and the joy that brought them. They love their Playmobil treehouse and we love them.

    My man still going strong even though everything seems to conspire against him. (For context: his workplace went bankrupt yesterday and instead of him being fired/free, as we had hoped, he may be forced to work for another 6 weeks and that sucks.)

    Having an app-group to winge and whine about the above setback. App groups can be a curse and sometimes they're a blessing.

    Having a coffee and paper by myself in the morning because I felt tense. I am particularly grateful for having the choice to do that when I need it.

    I can still see the floor of the playroom after two days after I cleaned it up and that is certainly something. :D

    Bonus: cuddles and kisses from the minions when I needed them. They are the sweetest.

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    citrus Doing 2 cheers 2017-08-20 16:35:17

    Read The handmaid's tale during holidays. Pretty good.

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    citrus Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-13 11:05:48

    The Vorrh was... confusing but ultimately worthwhile.

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    citrus Doing 2 cheers 2017-06-05 20:25:05

    Got a whole line of books waiting for me but must finish The Vorrh first for book club.
    I am not a fan.

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    citrus Doing 2 cheers 2017-04-25 12:19:12

    Nearing the end of the Gaiman book. It is not a long one, again. I wish he'd write a full length novel again. In the mean time I have The Vorrh on my e-reader and I have started that. I am not sure if I will like it, to be honest. I am reading it for my book club. The foreword (not by the author) was somewhat condescending towards classic fantasy and I feel that a book, much like people, should stand on its own without bringing others down. BUT! This might be the case. Bring it on.

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    citrus Doing 6 cheers 2017-04-23 20:46:26

    Norse mythology by Neil Gaiman is pretty good.

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    citrus Doing 5 cheers 2017-06-05 20:24:24

    Got a job on my desk that I am applying for. In the mean time I had a little thing to do in Denmark last week and did that. Now I need to negotiate the follow-up on that. It pays terribly though. I need a steady job.

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    citrus Doing 4 cheers 2017-05-17 10:24:24

    Wasn't invited to the last application. Was not necessary for translation work.
    In the mean time I have a small job from an earlier employer to go to an international meeting for them and present there and report back. It's okay, it's work.
    I am telling people that I need a job and what I can do. Networking seems to be the best way to go about it, especially since I am almost always overqualified and/or too old.

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    citrus Doing 8 cheers 2017-04-13 11:22:51

    Sent out an application for a job I do not particularly aspire to. Last time I did that I got stuck in a rotten situation for 2.5 years BUT at least I had an income. Heh.
    I would be extremely surprised if I were invited for this job but we'll see.

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    citrus Doing 11 cheers 2017-03-23 11:15:51

    Sent an application in just now. I don't expect much from it but who knows?
    I am also re-sparked a little about my work field (musicology) after a talk with a professor I know and like. That feels nice, after having been so tired of it for so long.

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    citrus Doing 2 cheers 2017-03-12 16:09:29

    Narp. I might look into becoming a translator.

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    citrus Doing 0 cheers 2017-06-05 20:21:36

    I am writing Dutch now and mainly for my (professional) blog on my freelance website. It forces me to write a bit every week and right now that's enough.

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    citrus Doing 1 cheers 2017-04-25 20:29:13

    I need to get some mileage. I've given up on the 'write a book' goal because that doesn't feel all that realistic and puts unnecessary pressure on. At the moment I just need to write and flex my writing muscles to strengthen them. Maybe then over time I will end up with something that I find satisfactory and perhaps send it over to people to read. Right now that is not happening yet. (And I am still shuddering at the thought of that one time when I send something to someone and I know now what a load of crap that was and how she must despise me as a result of that. Gah.)

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      fiercepixie 2 cheers 2017-04-25 22:11:17

      @citrus Have you ever read the fantastic book Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott? She advocates "shitty first drafts"- i.e., don't put too much pressure on yourself to write something good, just get it down, because you can always go back and fix it. If you haven't read it, it is SOOOOO good! You got this!
      😊

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    citrus Doing 0 cheers 2017-06-05 20:18:49

    Well no luck so far. The one person chickened out and the others don't really hold up. So there we go. No progress.

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    citrus Doing 4 cheers 2017-04-17 15:19:31

    A post on FB (just before I switch to 43 for a week see other goal) yielded two people who said I could tag along with them and one who would give it a thought.

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      joycultivation 1 cheers 2017-04-30 20:23:17

      @citrus this is awesome and this is critical if you are struggling to get motivated. accountability means you need to show up or you let down the other person. also joining sports clubs and teams is helpful as well!

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    citrus Doing 4 cheers 2017-06-05 20:25:53

    Narp. This will not go down in history as my best year. Maybe a transformative year, eventually, but not my best.

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    citrus Doing 2 cheers 2017-04-30 20:05:17

    I have let this slip for a while because I was putting pressure on myself and found it both uncomfortable and unhelpful. Tomorrow is the start of a new month and conceivably a new set of goals but I am not sure if I will list them. Things are so uncertain right now in the home and I am still searching for meaningful work. I think I will take it one step at a time. Listing 10 things to work on during the month is not going to help me at this point.
    This does not take away from the general goal of making this year my Best Year Yet.

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    citrus Doing 13 cheers 2017-04-16 09:10:55

    I am upset. And I have nowhere to put it so I am putting it here.
    A person on facebook, whom I met on 43 and we were friends online for a long time, messengered me yesterday. I had left a comment on a post of hers and she took offense. According to her, 'a lot of people' had pointed out to her that it was snide. The comment had been left several days ago, and at first we actually exchanged a few lines about it. But there had been plenty of time for them to point that out and she got convinced, I guess. She did not contact me about it in the mean time or anything.
    The comment was not intended to be snide or otherwise nasty but I apologized because I know that written text can come across the wrong way and I explained my real meaning and offered to take the comment down.
    She then accused me of using a fake name online to hide behind. "I mean, what kind of name is that??" Well, it happens to be my name. My real one. I haven't hidden it these past years, not deceiving you now. (It is Ninja. Yes really.)
    I thought it was weird and offensive of her but apologized for my comment again and tried to move on. She kept coming at me about the comment and did not once acknowledge her mistake regarding my name and certainly didn't apologize for it. I went to bed rather upset, and woke up the same.
    This morning I posted a pic of my driver's licence to her comments section, told her I was upset about her lack of apology on that matter, and unfriended her. It didn't feel right to let her have access to my posts and pictures anymore.
    The message I got this morning was 'heh I guess that is your real name then' (still no apology) and that 'obviously' I wasn't sorry at all. I was but that doesn't mean she can continue to offend me that way.
    I am upset. It hurts to be treated that way by someone with whom you've been nothing but friendly over the years. I don't know why she would suspect me of willfully offending her and being a coward at the same time. I ended up blocking her, something I very rarely do.
    ☹

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      ahorrasi Doing 2 cheers 2017-04-17 03:47:19

      @citrus sorry you have to go through this. I've found that facebook is a GREAT medium for 'breaking up' with friends with whom weirdness existed beforehand (grudges, tension, etc) but the final 'break-up' usually occurs for a trivial, unreal, or otherwise out-of-left-field reason. I had that happen to me not just with a friend but with a relative. I also witnessed the breach happen between 43things users - and not its weird for them to come back and 'see' each other. It's one reason I've sort of avoided facebooking a lot of ppl from 43things/popclogs because there's something about the conversion that doesn't always work

      in conclusion: there was some weird thing from her towards you, or you guys towards each other, unacknowledged, and this is how it decided to blow up

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    • alysse14
      alysse14 1 cheers 2017-04-17 04:54:02

      @citrus Sorry to read someone made you feel so low, even after you explained your original comment. Sometimes when people get upset over something, they've got their mind made up that they're not forgiving you and no amount of explaining or apologising can fix things. Perhaps you're better off without this person's drama! Also I think, and I believe there are many many many people that would agree, that Ninja is a really cool name 🙂

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    • flowergirl
      flowergirl 3 cheers 2017-04-17 14:59:55

      @citrus You did the right thing by unfriending them... Don't let them get to you, you are not an offensive person. You apologised for the comment, don't let the drama in... Some people just love it as it justifies a rude and irrational response from them... Ignore and don't worry, there are many 43ers who loves ya x

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      hawkmeister 7 cheers 2017-04-17 18:36:43

      @citrus WTF? There are some people who will never be satisfied with an apology (whether earned or not). You're better off without such people cluttering up your life. And... Ninja? I take back everything I ever said about pirates being better than (real) Ninjas. :)

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    • rainbowssparks
      rainbowssparks 3 cheers 2017-04-17 19:55:27

      @citrus Ugh, some people. Can imagine this is upsetting, especially since the other side is so blind to their own part in this. I guess it is better left the way it is now, but still seems like a shame.

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    citrus Doing 15 cheers 2017-03-28 15:40:33

    Update?
    1. Physical health: Lose 12 kilos. That's a whole lotta nope.
    2. Mental health: Find stability. Feeling useless and worthless lately but will persevere with meaning etc.
    3. Financial independence. Noperdinope.
    4. Keep creating. Also a nope although I have started a project on Scrivener to write a book that is constantly playing in my head. It is hard but who knows where it will end up.
    5. Make my house useable. I have been cleaning up and throwing stuff out and that feels pretty good. If it were up to me I'd chuck half our belongings to the street but the man will likely object.
    6. Social stuff. It's okay. I am currently mainly socializing with mothers from school and that's okay.
    7. BYY course. Haven't been working on it too hard. Must get back into it.
    8. Optimal growth for the minions. Easy does it.
    9. Closeness with the man. As his company is about to collapse, we're kind of looking forward to whatever will happen next. Rise from the ashes?
    10. Enjoy & Have fun. I try. I try.

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    citrus Doing 1 cheers 2017-03-12 16:06:20

    UPDATE TIME!


    1. Not losing any kilos but I am sure that my Lent effort (see goal) will pay off eventually.

    2. Had a bad turn this week and then managed to turn it around by a mindswing.

    3. No progress whatsoever. Had to ask the man for money to pay for insurance etc and that doesn't feel all that nice.

    4. Made a lovely new booklet.

    5. I am slowly but surely purging the apartment of things we don't need. It is a bit of a shame that I live with a hoarder and a couple of wild animals.

    6. Spent the weekend with a group of people in a B&B (boardgame weekend) and it is now certain that I am not a group kind of person. However, have enjoyed the occasional cup of tea with people.

    7. Skipped a week of goal setting so will do again tomorrow, Monday, when the minions are back in school.

    8. Oy, little E is upset because he sister appears to be smarter than her and the other kids in school are further along than her with swimming and biking etc. It is difficult to get it into her head that she in fact one of the most wonderfully creative people I have ever met. It made me sad to see her so upset and insecure.

    9. Slowly but surely. His job is falling apart and it appears to be a good thing too.

    10. This morning we went to the beach and had a loud game of Kubb (The King's game) where we all had a grand time.

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    citrus Done 0 cheers 2017-08-20 16:20:26

    I've done this!


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    citrus Done 0 cheers 2017-06-05 20:21:53

    No luck. Because no money and no inspiration.

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    citrus Done 3 cheers 2017-05-07 19:44:35

    I may be literal. I may actually cut my hair myself. Or I may make an appointment and have it cut. I am not sure. I don't have a lot of money and I don't like spending the little I have (left). On the other hand, I don't like having a bad haircut either. 😃 On the other other hand (I could go on I am an octopus) my hair always looks the same after a haircut and refuses to comply with regulations in any case.
    If I get a haircut, I will let you know. 😃 #firstworldproblems

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I trained how to make the tests because that's a particular form and it is good to know the time frames etc.

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    citrus Done 0 cheers 2017-05-17 10:21:01

    I've done this!


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    citrus Done 2 cheers 2017-03-18 20:52:13

    I have a subscription to De Correspondent, a Dutch research news site. It is brilliant, has a wide range of correspondents and most of all: it is independent of advertising and runs on subscriptions only. Six euros a month very well spent.

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      ladygrinningsoul Doing 1 cheers 2017-03-19 01:20:45

      @citrus Sounds great! I've finally got a little cash to spare for this but am still dithering about where to 'invest' it. Ideally I'd like to subscribe to one or two good quality mainstream newspapers and another couple of smaller enterprises. With so little spare cash it feels like a very important decision! x

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I wrote almost every day. That's it. I did not care much for the social aspect of it, whereby participants are placed in 'cabins' to inspire and help each other along, but maybe I used it wrong. Never mind, it was good exercise and it kickstarted my resolve to write more.

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    citrus Done 0 cheers 2017-04-29 15:38:37

    I've done this!


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    citrus Done 1 cheers 2017-04-21 10:10:38

    14,392
    I didn't write for almost a week so I am way behind but slowly catching up. It is more like a diary than a story this time but it feels good to just write write write. I should do that much more and more often than I do now - or tend to do outside of NaNo months.

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    citrus Done 0 cheers 2017-04-13 20:21:37

    10,296

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    citrus Done 3 cheers 2017-04-09 18:43:14

    7,485. Going for 25,000 words so still have some way to go. Almost on track. (My mother was taken to the hospital on Wednesday and that kind of put a brake on things for a few days but she's fine and I am catching up on the word count.)

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    citrus Done 1 cheers 2017-04-05 09:44:20

    3943 today. I had nothing to write about so I wrote about nothing.

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    citrus Done 0 cheers 2017-04-23 20:47:49

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    citrus Done 0 cheers 2017-04-23 20:47:34

    So far so good. I like using it, even if I only use the very basics. It could be a pretty useful tool for further writing projects. If the offer I receive at the end of Camp NaNo is good, I will take it.

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    citrus Done 0 cheers 2017-03-22 13:14:02

    Seems worthwhile for writing projects. The tutorial takes a few hours to get through and then of course I need to get using it to familiarise myself further.

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I have done this before and it is really not that hard, all things considered.

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