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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 3 cheers 2017-08-01 16:45:20

    This weekend I am going to.....GULP.....cull the art supplies in the cedar chest, and atop the drafting table.

    I am donating them to a local non profit that has a day care center. I know the gal who runs it and she was recently bemoaning the fact that there's little money in the budget for art supplies.

    Voila.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 6 cheers 2017-07-25 16:36:05

    Well, I am still considering possibilities here. Alas, a new possibility may have presented itself to have outside space as studio space. I need only speak with someone about it, someone who has some extra unused space at their business. I was there recently, as a customer, and noticed this great space! All unused! Whether or not the owner will be amenable, who knows, but it never hurts to ask. I am open to yes and not afraid of no. One of my mottos is that you have to be willing to create some of your own opportunities.

    I am going to contact her today!

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 5 cheers 2017-06-19 20:59:58

    I want to recreate the creative/studio space I have at home. I have been thinking about renting a space but that's just not a viable option for me right now.

    I had a LOT more space in the home I used to have and downsizing my creative space since I moved has been a challenge, but needs must.

    I have an Ikea drafting table (not a big Ikea fan...I am convinced planned obsolescence is a built in feature of their products.....but it was given to me) in the corner of my bedroom right now that serves as "studio" along with a large cedar chest containing some of my supplies. I think I need to rearrange the bedroom somehow.....but....how?

    I REALLY really love the space in this picture.......that's my kind of work space. I actually have about 1/3 of that much space to work with, about half my bedroom space. I do have a lot of natural light. I need more storage space though. Currently many of my supplies are on the drafting table taking up a lot of space.

    1) Consider the most optimal usage of space
    2) Consider moving the bed and the desk

    Hmmmmmm.....work in progress....

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    • Andia
      Andia 1 cheers 2017-08-11 09:25:42

      @beequeen I've been haunting Pinterest to get ideas for a nice art/home office space. This is beautiful.

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-08-11 14:53:06

        @Andia Its my dream space, really. I'd like something like that. Open, airy, full of light........sparsely furnished..... :)

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        • Andia
          Andia 1 cheers 2017-08-11 15:06:45

          @beequeen me too! I am still in the process of letting go of too much stuff. The only way to get a room to look like that is to get rid of more, paint my office/art room a brighter color(right now it's the contractor yellow beige color) and paint my furniture which for the most part is black. It's kind of a drab sad room right now with too much stuff.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2017-10-02 20:37:49

    To that end, I have been asked to curate a few more shows locally! I am really looking forward to it.

    I have no formal training in curation beyond some art and art history classes in and post college, but I am creative in my own right, and have a great aesthetic. I curated a few shows two summers ago that while only moderately attended were well curated, and successful enough. (The marketing was an abject failure, which I was not responsible for.)

    I do it for fun.........but I do keep thinking.....maybe this could turn into another source of income for me in time.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-20 20:35:05

    Gaiman worked with many artists on this series including Dave McKean, Sam Keith, Mike Dringenberg, Dave Stewart and Todd Klein to name but a few. Every volume was a delight for the senses. If you like graphic novels, I highly recommend this series.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2017-06-20 20:26:28

    The Sandman Series and The Endless are great art. From story to story board.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-20 20:25:14

    Neil says hey, by the way.....................

    Graphic novel series, The Sandman, by Neil Gaiman. I love this series. It runs the gamut: love, lust, history, myth, philosophy, art, religion, war, family, a myriad of cultures, Earth, not Earth, dead, alive, people, animals, otherworldy beings, poetry, anima, animus, literature, music, color, story......story........story...........and of course, The Endless.

    "The main character of The Sandman is Dream, also known as Morpheus and other names, who is one of the seven Endless. The other Endless are Destiny, Death, Desire, Despair, Delirium–who was once Delight–and Destruction–who turned his back on his duties. The series is famous for Gaiman's trademark use of anthropomorphic personification of various metaphysical entities, while also blending mythology and history...." (from Wikipedia)

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 0 cheers 2017-06-20 19:50:12

    Mixed media, Sanjay Dhawan...gorgeous color.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 4 cheers 2017-10-10 16:50:53

    I declare, that while I am hella feminine:

    I AIN'T DAINTY.

    That's my thought for the day. (I kept it to myself though, 'cept between me and you. Because I am getting paid to be diplomatic. LOLOL.)

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    • Andia
      Andia 1 cheers 2017-10-11 11:21:56

      @beequeen there are things appealing with so many body types. I love how you don’t equate feminine with daintiness. It’s not the same thing at all.

      I love the whole 50s pinup styles that are so utterly feminine but they were not tiny. I wish I was that type of girl at times but I’m more of a boho, indie stylin girl. Give me oversized flowing shirts and I am a happy camper.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 4 cheers 2017-09-14 20:25:35

    Sister-hood is global??? Really???

    I struggle with this. I am female, gladly so, comfortable in my femaleness and femininity, and have been willingly and passionately involved with organizations that support and empower women for years.

    The struggle for me is that I feel many women still engage in power plays with one another that undermine authentic, positive, affirming interaction and which negate tolerance and acceptance, even some of the women I have worked alongside in the aforementioned organizations.

    For example, I just spent the last several days in the company of some colleagues and industry peers, the majority of whom were women. The better part of our interactions left me seeking solitude, or finding others to interact with, mostly men, and some older women or other single women. The topics of conversation among the majority of middle aged or childbearing/rearing aged women with whom I interacted didn’t invite the participation of the “uninitiated”. Unless we were "talking shop", I couldn't contribute, and they had no interest in segueing the topics of conversation toward things in which all might participate. In fact, they steadfastly refused to acknowledge my attempts to segue, though I did so respectfully and with some germane, interesting topics, I might add. "You're just not one of us", their attitudes and behavior, and even body language, suggested. A woman among them who’d lost her children (permanently) to social services or other family members due to ongoing substance abuse issues, and another who was on her third marriage found quarter and acceptance among them yet I did not. Ever curious.

    I have faced this situation ALL of my adult life. So, I don’t feel like I am part of a global network of “sisters”, no, as so many have made a point over time to inform me either by attitude or behavior that, in their eyes, I just don’t quite measure up. I often feel more accepted by men, older women who are less inclined to be as judgmental and intolerant as childbearing/childrearing women, and younger women who have yet to become the wives and mothers who are dismissive of non wives and non mothers.

    I do not know why this dynamic exists, but it is very real, and not imagined on my part. I have my opinions and suspicions as to why I believe it exists. I have also talked with other single women who report similar observations. I suppose we comprise our own sisterhood.

    I am not inclined to dismiss or judge another woman because she is a wife and/or a mother. I am embracing, and accepting and engaged with many women who are. (Unless she is an abusive parent or wife….) Why would a woman, or group of women, be dismissive of me because I am not? Incidentally, there have been times when I have offered up the fact that I have had two miscarriages, and that seems to promote me to Real Woman status and invite me into the Sister Hood. Then, sometimes I even mention that they were unintended pregnancies. My newly issued visa into the Sister Hood is immediately revoked when it is discovered that I never wanted kids anyway. As if the miscarriages were divine retribution for that, or something akin. Mind you, I never wanted miscarriages either, thanks very much. Ever had one? I wouldn’t recommend it. They're painful physically and emotionally. Never mind the fact that I am a popular and loving auntie, who is a good role model and a superlative nurturer (of both children and adults). Never mind the fact that if I’d not miscarried, I’d have carried my pregnancies to term and, if my relationships with all these nieces and nephews is any indication, I’d probably have been a good parent. (I staunchly advocate for pro-choice, and have never been dismissive or judgmental of women who have had abortions, but would not have chosen abortion for myself at those times.)

    I raise this issue as during the time with my colleagues and peers this notion of being “sisters” was alluded to overtly and by inference on several occasions. It was like the backslapping and or hugging, the winks and nods and secret handshakes were going on all around me, but not extended to me. It was extended to some of the younger single women, because it was established that they were pledging members of the sorority, in other words, they intend to get married and become mothers. One woman asked me “You mean you NEVER wanted children?????” with this look on her face that I am so familiar with now. “No, I never did” I said. I get asked this a lot, and my response generates this curious mixture of confusion, disdain, pity and disbelief. Curious, because I am not confused myself, nor disdainful, pitiable or not to be believed.

    I have lived thru more than 3 decades and three phases of the women’s movement for fuck’s sake, two of which I have been an active participant in, so that the women dismissing me and the daughters of the women dismissing me have more freedom than women in any other nation on Earth. Yet, I am “suspect” because I chose a different path? CHOSE. Choice. Which women have in this nation. Because of women like me.

    Is there ever going to come a time in my lifetime when women really, truly support and empower one another instead of sizing each other up like immanent threats, or dismissing each other for taking a different route to personal fullfillment? Threats to what exactly? I have helped raise children. I have put policies and social services in place, and administered them, for women and children, I haven’t slept with husbands or boyfriends, even though the aforementioned women fear or suspect it (borne of their own insecurity, or their husband's behavior, not mine) and I take the high road when time and time again I am faced with the dynamic I met again recently in yet another group of women excluding me from their ad hoc tribe of sisters. And not for the last time, of that I am sure.

    I know who I am, I know my worth, but I find it profoundly disappointing every time it happens.

    I deserve better, as a person, as a woman.

    Sisterhood? Only if you’re a card carryin’ member, apparently.

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    • taylor
      taylor 1 cheers 2017-09-14 21:49:40

      @beequeen I'm sorry you've had to experience that kind of unfair treatment. They must be pretty shallow to exclude someone like you. I wonder if you're suffering because of the images of single, mature childless women projected in some films and books, rather than anything you've personally done. I can't recall many positive characters like that, other than nuns. Kinsey Millhone from the Sue Grafton "A is for ..." novels, too. I suppose it's another spin on the madonna-or-whore dynamic.

      Maybe they're secretly jealous? I don't know of too many people who don't have some little regret in their lives, or who don't secretly wonder what it would be like had they taken another path. When they meet someone who had the courage to make those choices, maybe some resentment creeps out?

      When meeting new people (especially dads) I'm often asked if I have kids. When I say no, the answer is always, "oh." Hopefully, we find some other common ground.

      We don't have a large group of friends in town, but we're fortunate that some of them are also childless couples of a certain age. They don't all know each other, so maybe we should have a party just for them.

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-09-15 19:58:46

        @taylor

        Hmmmm, good point, I hadn't thought of that but you're right, that could be part of it; the media representations and their bias. It makes sense, given the general media bias against women in general. That's why I find "chick flicks" and "chick lit" so insipid, inane and such paltry representations of anything I relate to.

        I do feel their resentment at times, yes, yet I don't know where it comes from. They, like I, have made their choices. I don't live with regrets, as such, so I have a hard time relating to that feeling.

        All I ask is mutual respect and tolerance. I have been taking the high road for 30 years, navigating it with grace. This last week, I almost set that aside in favor of giving them a reality check. LOL

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        • taylor
          taylor 1 cheers 2017-09-15 20:24:25

          @beequeen They may not have any reason to find you threatening, other than that Lifetime movie where the heroine has to defend her marriage against a single career woman her husband works with.

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    • cia007
      cia007 1 cheers 2017-09-15 21:18:47

      @beequeen sent you a PM ❤️

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    • Andia
      Andia 1 cheers 2017-09-18 23:38:26

      @beequeen unfortunately have run across the same thing. I have been sadly disappointed in my gender on many levels. I think back to women gathering to quilt, cook or aid each other and now it seems like there are more things that set us apart than bring us together in our society. We compete on all levels out of society encouragement, self-centeredness, and insecurities.

      The hurricane despite the bad it brought has brought women and men together having a common goal rather than secluding ourselves in our private world with our private homes and our private backyards. Community has returned temporarily.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 0 cheers 2017-08-02 16:03:11

    So, this is a mini rant. Just warning those of you who don't want a dose of my frustration. This would be the time to go read someone else's post. LOL

    There, you are warned.

    I work with a woman who has a million and one good things going for her on a personal level. She's vivacious and personable, funny and smart.

    That said, while I sincerely like her on a personal level, I don't like working with her, and neither does anyone else. She is one of the most indolent individuals I have ever met, and she has no discernible work ethic. She is incapable of performing even the simplest tasks efficiently and conscientiously. Over time there are those of us whose responsibility it has become to do our work, AND hers. Because hers consonantly needs to be checked, reevaluated, or entirely redone. She does not take initiative, and is difficult to train despite being an innately intelligent being. We need to tell her the same things over, and over, and over. She is late to work EVERY day, and late returning to work from lunch break, so that someone else needs to cover the phone til she gets in.

    I am venting about this because this camels back has almost received the last straw that breaks it......

    We have spoken to management about it. They have spoken to her about some of it. They pick their battles, because she is also very moody and easily offended. If, for example, she gets spoken to, she'll be in a childish mood for the rest of the day, which makes interacting with her a challenge for anyone who has to. Honest to God, its like working with a toddler sometimes. And she's almost 50. Old enough to have a work ethic. Old enough to be a mature individual capable of interacting with other adults professionally. Old enough to be on time. Old enough to pick up after herself and keep her work spaces tidy and organized enough at least for others to find things they may need.

    See, I told you this was a rant.

    Ha ha.

    There appears to be no solution to the problem that is Alice. Management's discussions with her change nothing. The tactful (and in the case of some, not so tactful) comments of others changes nothing. Even the own vibe she gets that people feel the way they do (for she does know) changes nothing!

    I just don't understand this. Am truly flummoxed as to why she has not been seriously warned, or fired outright.

    To be clear, I'd like for there to be a solution that doesn't include her losing her job. But I am also tired of doing her job as well as my own, all the while witnessing her having less and less on her plate as she proves herself more and more incapable.

    I feel like management is fostering her indolence, and even rewarding it, because there are no consequences.

    I don't have an answer. I am just venting, because today she didn't show up for work again and I am having to absorb her work load. Again.

    Sigh.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-20 16:28:12

    HOME

    I am not an overly sentimental or nostalgic person with a few exceptions, one being the place where I was raised, where my people come from.
    (After they migrated from the UK and Scandinavia, to Canada, then here.)

    Our kin settled here after the Revolution. We have been here as a family for about 230 years. I find that remarkable and it is one of my greatest sources of pride. There has never been a time when some of us were not here. Other families come and go, or die out, “implants” come and go and claim to be “local “if they stay more than a minute, but they are not local like my tribe are local. We are 13, maybe 14 generations local, baby! Just sayin’. 🙂

    My siblings and I were lucky enough to be raised here, to grow up with this profound sense of place, and then to be a part of this very large and deeply rooted family. At one point in my life, there were 5 generations of us living!! I knew of few other families that had that privilege, that kind of rich family life. It saved us, my siblings and I; I have alluded to the fact that one of our parents was an addict and that that part of our life was often very, very hard. This family held us close though. It made all the difference.

    I left as a younger woman to gallivant (chronic wanderlust, gypsy soul) and then to study. I always thought I’d end up travelling forever, but this place has an allure like no other place I have ever been, however intoxicating those other places were. I suppose it is in large part due to the very deep roots I have here, but it is also because it is sublimely, breathtakingly beautiful year round, no matter the season. I am glad to be back. I am glad to be home.

    We aren’t as close as we once were, and the family is smaller now; fewer family gatherings, fewer children born, and we have had our own disapora as many families have nowadays. But wow………what a history we have. I believe it stands all of us in good stead.

    I started a project, writing family history and anecdotes for the kids in my immediate family……………………….its a labor of love.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 6 cheers 2017-10-09 16:25:35

    It's almost Halloween! Best holiday ever.

    Do you like Halloween? Do you celebrate it?

    I am claiming the Green M & M as my avatar for the rest of the month.

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    • wyverndust
      wyverndust Doing 1 cheers 2017-10-10 02:00:04

      @beequeen I like Halloween. Past 2 years including this one, no we did not celebrate. I didn't even get a pumpkin for our front porch this year. Neither did our neighbor, who constantly competes with us each year for who has the biggest pumpkin. Two years ago, she had a ridiculous tall skinny pumpkin that to me was not bigger, just because it was taller. Ours was much heftier and we still have the seeds. Trying to remember if it was actually last year or the year before. Does not matter, we win!

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    • jadedforever
      jadedforever Doing 1 cheers 2017-10-10 23:26:10

      @beequeen

      Halloween. It's Ok.
      No. We don't really celebrate it.
      We used to go out to Sizzler on Halloween. Not sure why.
      I wore a purple wig one year out to Sizzler!

      We don't get any trick or treaters where we live.
      I do like to wear wigs for Halloween.I should wear them just for fun sometime.

      I bought a mini white pumpkin this year it's on my desk!
      And 2 painting type decorations with lights!

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    • spyrunner
      spyrunner Doing 1 cheers 2017-10-12 00:47:56

      @beequeen I love Halloween. Every October I listen to a scary story on CD, watch a horror movie, eat all the pumpkin goodies and enjoy the colorful trees.

      My son wants to carve a pumpkin. We used to use plastic nails that you hammer into the pumpkin. It was fun doing that, but this year he wants to use a sharp knife on one.

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    • julettaskey
      julettaskey Doing 0 cheers 2017-10-17 20:55:08

      @beequeen LoVe Halloween. It's the pre-party for my birthday.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 3 cheers 2017-06-20 20:57:31

    Does cursing or swearing offend you? Does the "F" word offend you?

    It only offends me if people use it to hurt me, or others. If it is used as a verbal weapon.

    I do think people should be careful with their language around children, or others who may be offended by cursing, in other words, know your audience, but on the whole it does not offend me. How about you?

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    • heartfilledminds
      heartfilledminds Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-21 20:23:59

      @anne89 I curse with illnesses all the time, but only with the ones I have because you gotta laugh at life right?

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    • israfel
      israfel Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-23 09:19:29

      @beequeen it's not exactly offensive,it depends on the environment I suppose as to whether or not it is appropriate. When I was working away for long periods of time I would find myself cursing more often than when I was around civilization. Now I just find cursing in public to be boorish.

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    • rainbowssparks
      rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2017-06-23 12:43:06

      @beequeen Not at all, but I do think there is a difference between cursing because things go wrong, or cursing at somebody calling them whatever. I don't do that last thing, not directly, I may say to somebody else that person X is a complete (enter swearword of choice), but not with this person present. When somebody curses at me like that I just am done with that person instantly, no more room for communication and basically they are out of my life. It does get to me though, need to let that go.

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    • ahorrasi
      ahorrasi Doing 0 cheers 2017-06-25 03:55:15

      @beequeen funny you should ask the question bc i am thinking of making it a July goal, stop cussing/swearing, etc.

      my whole thing is, i do it waaaaay too much, and have done it since i was like 5 years old (literally, lol, prob the thing i was MOST punished about as a child)

      I want to stop because
      1) it would be a new and novel thing for me to attempt
      2) it DOES inev. offend others and why make life more difficult for yourself by offending others?
      3) there's a sense in which i guess in some sort of metaphysical sense you're crapping on yourself by saying crappy things. It's an idea i got the one time i attempted to STOP - i noticed that i managed to get less rageful and frustrated by stuff when i REFUSED to label whatever was happening with ugly words. The experiment failed of course but i would if only for that reason

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    • julettaskey
      julettaskey Doing 0 cheers 2017-10-17 21:05:24

      @beequeen I tend to say the F-bomb all the time. It's such a versatile word to use. Like, you are confused (WTF), expressing anger or pain (Fuck!), admitting defeat (fuck it) or expressing surprise.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2017-06-19 14:21:35

    I marvel and wonder at the strength of that wisp of a girl. (Even now that she is older.)

    She was all of 18, living in a rooming house in a European city where she didn’t speak the language and knew no one except a few neighbors, while her neglectful and abusive new husband lived on base nearby and rarely visited. Her first child was coming six weeks earlier than expected!! He got lost on his way to the hospital, that husband. She spent all of that driving time praying and sitting with her shins under her, knees open and balancing on her toes, bracing herself on the dash and the back of the car seat to avoid sitting on my head which was already crowning.

    I was born 26 minutes after they arrived at the hospital. I came FAST. She said she was very scared en route that she was going to have to deliver me in the car without a doctor present. I am glad for her that she didn’t have to.
    She liked the big army doctor who delivered me; she has always said he was as kind as he was large. (Six foot five-ish, huge hands. She said seeing me in his hands was at once reassuring and comical as I was barely 5lbs.)

    I have seen many pictures of her when she was younger, at or around the age of my birth. She was SO tiny! But so strong. Mighty! She still is.

    I am really fortunate to be hers, and she mine.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2017-06-19 12:33:14

    Inspired by something Anne said to me (I'll let her tell it) I got to wondering.....

    What's YOUR birth story? Share some or all if you care to. I'll share mine later. (In other words.....do you know much about the actual day and set of circumstances your Mother birthed you?)

    Picture is from the Hubble telescope, birth of a star.

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    • taylor
      taylor Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-19 20:24:55

      @beequeen I don't know the whole story, though I know my dad wasn't there either -- had to work, I'm told. I know they eloped to either North or South Dakota less than nine months before I was born. Mom told me last year that she was writing the story of her life, so maybe I'll find out some day if she doesn't gloss over it.

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    • beequeen
      beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2017-06-19 20:35:39

      @taylor

      Hey that's pretty cool, or "kewl" as Shelley would say LOL that your Momma is writing the story of her life!

      "Gloss over it" ha ha ha......yeah, people do have a tendency to do so, don't they?

      They eloped......see, that's way more romantic to me. At this point in my life I would elope. Actually at any point in my life I would have, if I'd ever wanted to marry any of them! Ha ha ha!!! The whole princess white wedding thing has never appealed to me. Its a little over the top. I'd like for me and my intended to elope to some splendid outdoor venue, tie the knot with some strangers witnessing, then just come back and throw a big party where the only gifts people bring are themselves. Yeeeehawwwww!

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      • taylor
        taylor Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-20 14:30:54

        @beequeen Thanks. I'm not sure whether their elopement was romantic or practical, as in, he's an aging (35) bachelor from a prominent family who got a younger divorcee from the other side of town pregnant, so they'd better make it legal quietly out of state.

        I like your idea for a wedding, though. Kinda wish we'd done it that way. (BTW, we just celebrated 33 years married.)

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        • beequeen
          beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-20 16:02:49

          @taylor Yes, I saw that elsewhere! (The 33 years.) That's remarkable. I can only imagine the kind of intimacy that comes from a relationship of that longevity. I know that's a lot of work too. I hope to meet someone with whom I can embark on such a journey.................

          Congratulations!

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      • anne89
        anne89 Doing 2 cheers 2017-06-20 16:10:31

        my grandparents weren't amused but I am! xD">

        @beequeen my uncle got married to my aunt without telling anyone beforehand. they were abroad and they sent a picture of themselves with both of them wearing normal clothes, except my aunt wearing a voile curtain on her head, holding a plant from the window sill. "surprise we got married!" lmao my grandparents weren't amused but I am! xD

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    • heartfilledminds
      heartfilledminds Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-21 20:32:15

      @beequeen basically my mom was already ill and in hospital. My heart stopped and so they did an emergency c-section. For some reason my dad convinced the doctors to let him in the OR (which isn't allowed ever in life-or-death stuff), him being ex-marine probably having to do something with it. He got to cut my umbilical cord even, before doctors moved me away to get my heart veating and everything.

      Funny part is that because I was 2 months early my parents had only decided on a name a few days earlier. So with my mom still in the hospital my dad had to go and register me.

      He comes back to the hospital and shows my mom the birth certificate and he chose the wrong name xD. So they had to change my name after a few days, which is quite expensive.

      I also looked like a frozen turkey. I s2G that's what my baby photos look like :P

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    • ahorrasi
      ahorrasi Doing 0 cheers 2017-06-25 04:00:58

      @beequeen mine were not great - my dad was sort of AWOL, my grandmother (my mum's mum) was in her last month of life from a raging metastasizing cancer, and oh yes, we had no $ because #1

      i think the birth itself was fairly standard, push-it-out kind of stuff though. No weird illness or anything

      there's a photo of my mum leaving the hospital the day after I was born and she looked like she had the worst headache that anybody had ever invented - two 11's on her forehead etched with an axe.

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      israfel Doing 0 cheers 2017-06-25 10:33:01

      @beequeen I know it was a snowy spring day(8:35am)when I was born. And dad got a puppy(Ringo)and brought him home on the same day I came home from the hospital. And I still love dogs! Have two sleeping on me as I write this.

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    beequeen Doing 5 cheers 2017-06-05 21:22:00

    1) Do you have friends in your life that you have known for a long time?

    1a) How long have you known your dearest friend?

    2) Do you cultivate new friendships regularly?

    3) Have you had to let go of some friendships?

    Me:

    1) Yes! I have known several for 40 plus years, and some 20 plus years. (From elementary school and growing up, then from travel abroad or college.) Those relationships are amazing. To literally grow up with someone, from the time you are children together, or to have met years ago and kept the friendship alive....what a gift to have sustained those relationships thru time and change.....I have no words. Its just remarkable. A blessing.

    1a) 43 years!!! &#xsmile;

    2) Yes, I do cultivate new friendships too. Though I am very private; only people I really trust and respect come into the "inner circle" and become a regular part of my life. I also have a wide circle of acquaintances whose company I enjoy too. When I want company. LOL

    3) Yes, unfortunately. Each time (there have been only three I had to metaphorically jettison out the pod bay doors) it was because they violated my trust beyond the point of no return.

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    • taylor
      taylor Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-06 20:44:51

      Good question, @beequeen !
      1) Do you have friends in your life that you have known for a long time?

      Not so much from growing up and college, but I have a lot of friendships from work over the last 30+ years.

      1a) How long have you known your dearest friend?

      Aside from my wife, who I've known 35 years, a very dear friend dates back 30 years.

      2) Do you cultivate new friendships regularly?

      Yes. We had to move to a new city about 8 years ago and had to build a whole new local friendship network. In the last year, we've made many more new friends who we've become very close with.

      3) Have you had to let go of some friendships?
      Yes. My best friend from high school after he acted horribly toward my future wife. It was hard then, but looking back it was absolutely the best decision to make a break.

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-07 15:28:51

        @taylor

        Good answers thanks! :)

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          taylor Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-08 21:55:26

          @beequeen I'm glad that you have such long-lasting friendships. They must be a real joy to you. Do you live near where you grew up? My mom stayed in one city most of her life, and has some very long friendships, though she's also outliving many of them. I sometimes think about old friends from childhood and wonder where they are today, but think contacting them again might be awkward. And frankly, my life is very full now with current friends, and I'm not sure where I'd find the time.

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            beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-12 14:17:16

            @taylor

            Hi Taylor, thank you!

            I moved back to the place I grew up a few years ago. Most of the people I "rekindled" older friendships with I am on a acquaintance/casual social basis, with the exception of the few that I kept in touch with all the years I lived away, with whom I have remained close. Those long term relationships are indeed a great source of joy. As are those I met in my travels over nearly a quarter century travelling and living elsewhere. I still keep in touch with a handful of them too, some nearly 25 years after we met as carefree youths backpacking Europe at the same time, or in college years.

            I understand the time constraint, and the desire to relish time with what is tried and true. Some old school friends have tried to connect with me more intimately vs. just casually social, but I am content for some relationships to remain acquaintanceships. They have their place in social structure too, and I do reciprocate when I feel I truly "click" with someone and make an effort to cultivate a new friendship where I find a real one.

            Many of my elderly relatives here have never lived elsewhere and they have friendships and relationships spanning entire lifetimes, like your mother. It is remarkable. I think it takes an equal but different sort of strength of character to stay rooted in one place all your life rather than be mobile as I have. Each path has sacrifices and blessings specific to both choices. I feel like I have had the best of both worlds, really.

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              taylor Doing 0 cheers 2017-06-12 19:31:56

              @beequeen I suppose FB would be the place to rekindle some of those old, old acquaintances, but I'm not really on FB as myself. Several years ago my wife and I joined but we put both our names on the account (first first last last) - her's first. We initially used it to keep up with friends from the place we moved away from 8 years ago, a lot of them my friends from work. Since then, we've added some mutual friends, but she's added many from a FB fan group she's very involved with. So she's kind of taken over the account. I'd start my own account, but don't relish running into old "friends" including the one I had to sever a relationship with, who I know is friends with my brother. Also, I have kind of a public job, and don't want potential enemies looking me up that way. Do I recall correctly that you eschew FB and the like? If so, how do you deal with people who want to be online friends?

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                beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-13 14:11:37

                @taylor

                There are people here on 43 that I look forward to interacting with when I log on, like you, but I don't have an online presence as such. (This and Pinterest are it. And I don't interact at Pinterest, I go to get art and food ideas. I don't use my real name there either.)

                Yeah, I tried FB last year for about a month. It wasn't my thing.

                I am very old school. I abhor the way tech interaction has taken the place for most people of real bonafide face to face, heart to heart, mind to mind, soul to soul presence with other people. I feel surrounded by armies of distracted people. Its offensive to me to see so very many people with their attention CONSTANTLY tuned in to their "devices" and tuned out to what is going on around them. Especially parents, and drivers. One of the children in my life said to me a while ago that he liked spending time with me because I wasn't like his mom and other adults because I wasn't on my phone all the time. Out of the mouths of babes, eh?

                Like you, I also have a very public job, as well as a sibling in the entertainment industry, so online I like to keep a low profile anyway.

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                  taylor Doing 2 cheers 2017-06-13 19:27:41

                  @beequeen I think personal presence (physically and mindfully) is always preferable to being distracted by screens. I'm so glad you have that in your life! In defense of FB, I will say that the social network has enabled my wife and me to make some wonderful friendships with people across the country -- and have some really great in-person experiences that would not have been possible otherwise. We have two trips to Chicago planned in the next two months to get together with these friends. Will there be a lot of annoying group selfies? Probably. But seeing my wife blossom around her friends makes me so happy, especially after several years when her health kept her socially isolated.

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                    beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-16 16:27:51

                    @taylor I like to hear those kinds of FB anecdotes. It gives me faith that it has inherent value and can indeed add to the quality of peoples lives. Hope you and your wife have a great time in Chicago Taylor!

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      MayKasaharawithalongtail Doing 2 cheers 2017-06-07 05:59:33

      @beequeen



      1. Yes, three of them



      2. Friend A - 43 years
        Friend B - 40 years
        Friend C - 38 years


      3. I prefer to let untrustworthy ones sink to the bottom without my having to give them the boot getting there. But occasionally, I have offered a bit of boot. I like to think it was mutual boot, but I never looked back to find out. 🙂 :-)

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    beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-08-01 16:31:48

    To that end I am also not accepting more "stuff".

    For example, a friend just tried to give me some things from her own beadbox that she won't be using. I have enough in my own to keep beading for some time without running out of available materials so I politely declined.

    I have also encouraged family and friends over time not to gift me with things. I am grateful for their gifts, and have many creative people around me so asking them not to gift me with things that they could have made is hard, but I really do not want to accumulate more. Of anything.

    This weekend I plan to collect more from among my things to donate or give away. Clothing, books, household items. I'd been holding on to some of the household things, and books, thinking that I'd have another house by now, but that hasn't happened, and isn't likely to in the next several years, so away they go.

    When I was in a house I had a lot more room, it never felt crowded. And I don't want it to feel that way now, I need space. There was a lot of space amidst all the lovely things and decor. My current abode, an apartment, is much smaller and cannot accommodate all of the contents of my former life. (Not that I would even want it to; much is still in storage, and I have already given away a lot of that as well.)

    This is progress. Needs must; new space, different lifestyle. Evolve, keep my face toward the sun. &#xsmile;

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    beequeen Doing 0 cheers 2017-07-12 15:36:14

    Have been working on this little by little for the last few years. I downsized from a house to an apartment a few years ago and as one might surmise, I could not bring everything.

    So, away with more of it.

    Ongoing.

    Just keep what I love and what is useful.

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    beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2017-08-01 16:38:13

    I have been wanting to do this for a very long time. People say : "But that would be so HARD!" Maybe for some. I don't think it will be for me. I am a relatively quiet person, and am not conversational just to hear myself speak or to fill up silence. Last night I went to dinner with a group of friends, and they did the majority of the talking. I am OK with that. (Though, I will say, my penchant for being the least talkative one in my circle lends itself to often getting barraged by people who LOVE to talk talk talk......which I can find off putting to an extent.)

    Anyway, I want to do this, still. I hope I can make it happen in the next 12 months.

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    beequeen Doing 4 cheers 2017-09-19 20:01:34

    The ENTS are my peeps, yo.

    Because I miss climbing trees.....................I was that wild child, climbing high, jumping from limb to limb, hanging from them, hugging trunks and branches like old pals. My first "husband" was a wide branch of a big ol' apple tree. I used to sling my arm around that branch as casual as around a lover's shoulder. I even kissed the bark. You know, come to think of it, I am still looking for a big tree trunk of a man.................jeeze......poor guy. He is going to have to measure up to an apple tree. Well, I suppose it could be worse.

    Not me in the pic. Random web pic. I just liked her verve and sass.

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