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  • cessamestreet
    cessamestreet Doing 0 cheers 2017-06-22 07:21:05

    What if at some point we're not really ourselves and someone's borrowing ours for a day, but we have the whole memory of what happened like it was all you at that moment?

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 0 cheers 2017-06-20 20:57:31

    Does cursing or swearing offend you? Does the "F" word offend you?

    It only offends me if people use it to hurt me, or others. If it is used as a verbal weapon.

    I do think people should be careful with their language around children, or others who may be offended by cursing, in other words, know your audience, but on the whole it does not offend me. How about you?

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    • jadedforever
      jadedforever Doing 2 cheers 2017-06-20 22:04:55

      @beequeen

      Interesting.
      I hadn't thought about it too much before.

      I think if it was really angry cursing I would probably be offended. Or I wouldn't want someone cursing directly at me.
      But if they drop a few curse words I don't mind.

      And yes, there are certain people I don't curse in front of but I don't curse much anyway. So it's not hard to control it.
      I can curse in front of my mom she doesn't care. I don't think my dad cares either. Funny it's my siblings who don't curse.

      I say the F word but not all the time, it's my favorite curse word, I think! &#xwink;
      And there is a curse word that I don't care for.

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-21 15:09:23

        @jadedforever

        I got thinking about it as one of my coworkers commented on the language usage of another. Otherwise, like you, I don't give it much thought. Only one of my siblings ever curses. I do on occasion but rarely with vitriol and never at another person. I do use the eff word as a descriptive, but in company I know can take it. LOL

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    • anne89
      anne89 Doing 0 cheers 2017-06-21 18:31:12

      @beequeen it depends on the kind of swearing. Most of the swearing I hear are just crude words like shit and fuck and I don't mind them and I use them myself. (both in Dutch and English)

      one thing I find highly offensive though is saying goddamnit in Dutch. Probably because I was raised a christian, I can't even type the translation of that, it feels too wrong. hearing it feels like a slap in the face! For some reason I don't care that much hearing it in English, though I wouldn't use it myself.

      then there's one thing some Dutch people do, which is cursing with diseases. This I also find offensive. It's one thing to hear a crude word, it's quite another to have deadly diseases hurled at you. I would never do this, even in a rage of anger, it's just so distasteful. :(
      But luckily I am hardly ever at the receiving end of these curses. Last time was maybe half a year ago when some 12 year old boy yelled KANKERHOER at me, which means "cancer whore". !!! pffff

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    • heartfilledminds
      heartfilledminds Doing 0 cheers 2017-06-21 20:23:59

      @anne89 I curse with illnesses all the time, but only with the ones I have because you gotta laugh at life right?

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-19 14:21:35

    I marvel and wonder at the strength of that wisp of a girl. (Even now that she is older.)

    She was all of 18, living in a rooming house in a European city where she didn’t speak the language and knew no one except a few neighbors, while her neglectful and abusive new husband lived on base nearby and rarely visited. Her first child was coming six weeks earlier than expected!! He got lost on his way to the hospital, that husband. She spent all of that driving time praying and sitting with her shins under her, knees open and balancing on her toes, bracing herself on the dash and the back of the car seat to avoid sitting on my head which was already crowning.

    I was born 26 minutes after they arrived at the hospital. I came FAST. She said she was very scared en route that she was going to have to deliver me in the car without a doctor present. I am glad for her that she didn’t have to.
    She liked the big army doctor who delivered me; she has always said he was as kind as he was large. (Six foot five-ish, huge hands. She said seeing me in his hands was at once reassuring and comical as I was barely 5lbs.)

    I have seen many pictures of her when she was younger, at or around the age of my birth. She was SO tiny! But so strong. Mighty! She still is.

    I am really fortunate to be hers, and she mine.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-19 12:33:14

    Inspired by something Anne said to me (I'll let her tell it) I got to wondering.....

    What's YOUR birth story? Share some or all if you care to. I'll share mine later. (In other words.....do you know much about the actual day and set of circumstances your Mother birthed you?)

    Picture is from the Hubble telescope, birth of a star.

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    • taylor
      taylor Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-19 20:24:55

      @beequeen I don't know the whole story, though I know my dad wasn't there either -- had to work, I'm told. I know they eloped to either North or South Dakota less than nine months before I was born. Mom told me last year that she was writing the story of her life, so maybe I'll find out some day if she doesn't gloss over it.

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    • beequeen
      beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2017-06-19 20:35:39

      @taylor

      Hey that's pretty cool, or "kewl" as Shelley would say LOL that your Momma is writing the story of her life!

      "Gloss over it" ha ha ha......yeah, people do have a tendency to do so, don't they?

      They eloped......see, that's way more romantic to me. At this point in my life I would elope. Actually at any point in my life I would have, if I'd ever wanted to marry any of them! Ha ha ha!!! The whole princess white wedding thing has never appealed to me. Its a little over the top. I'd like for me and my intended to elope to some splendid outdoor venue, tie the knot with some strangers witnessing, then just come back and throw a big party where the only gifts people bring are themselves. Yeeeehawwwww!

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      • taylor
        taylor Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-20 14:30:54

        @beequeen Thanks. I'm not sure whether their elopement was romantic or practical, as in, he's an aging (35) bachelor from a prominent family who got a younger divorcee from the other side of town pregnant, so they'd better make it legal quietly out of state.

        I like your idea for a wedding, though. Kinda wish we'd done it that way. (BTW, we just celebrated 33 years married.)

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        • beequeen
          beequeen Doing 0 cheers 2017-06-20 16:02:49

          @taylor Yes, I saw that elsewhere! (The 33 years.) That's remarkable. I can only imagine the kind of intimacy that comes from a relationship of that longevity. I know that's a lot of work too. I hope to meet someone with whom I can embark on such a journey.................

          Congratulations!

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      • anne89
        anne89 Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-20 16:10:31

        my grandparents weren't amused but I am! xD">

        @beequeen my uncle got married to my aunt without telling anyone beforehand. they were abroad and they sent a picture of themselves with both of them wearing normal clothes, except my aunt wearing a voile curtain on her head, holding a plant from the window sill. "surprise we got married!" lmao my grandparents weren't amused but I am! xD

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    • heartfilledminds
      heartfilledminds Doing 0 cheers 2017-06-21 20:32:15

      @beequeen basically my mom was already ill and in hospital. My heart stopped and so they did an emergency c-section. For some reason my dad convinced the doctors to let him in the OR (which isn't allowed ever in life-or-death stuff), him being ex-marine probably having to do something with it. He got to cut my umbilical cord even, before doctors moved me away to get my heart veating and everything.

      Funny part is that because I was 2 months early my parents had only decided on a name a few days earlier. So with my mom still in the hospital my dad had to go and register me.

      He comes back to the hospital and shows my mom the birth certificate and he chose the wrong name xD. So they had to change my name after a few days, which is quite expensive.

      I also looked like a frozen turkey. I s2G that's what my baby photos look like :P

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  • rainbowssparks
    rainbowssparks 2 cheers 2017-06-18 15:16:41

    What is your guilty pleasure?

    Mine is definitely cola. Drink too much, need to stop, but love it.

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  • heartfilledminds
    heartfilledminds Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-12 19:01:09

    What are you looking forward to this week?

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  • jadedforever
    jadedforever Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-12 07:41:44

    What’s the most ridiculous thing you have ever bought?

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    • heartfilledminds
      heartfilledminds Doing 2 cheers 2017-06-12 12:02:47

      @jadedforever probably a book on how to crochet the royal family :D

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    • 1234567
      1234567 1 cheers 2017-06-12 14:20:26

      @jadedforever Soap on a rope! (not really). Nothing springs to mind. Once I won a strawberry scented dinosaur in a games room. But it smelled awesome!

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    • beequeen
      beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2017-06-15 17:05:29

      @jadedforever

      Well, I guess that'd be a very expensive bronze/silver/brass breastplate "statement" necklace that I have never worn.

      Unfortunately, I didn't try it on first.

      It was and still is one of the most sublime pieces of jewelry art I have ever seen. The length is off though. It needs to be about an inch shorter to fall right on my decolletage. It'd look great at that very length. I'd fix it myself were it not for the fact that the strap the pendant hangs on is also handtooled and cannot be easily changed. I contacted the sculptor who made it and he never even had the courtesy to get back to me. All he'd have to do is cut/shorten and retool the end of the strap. I have some jewelry making supplies but not for leather. (The strap is tooled leather.) I have kept it because it is a work of art and someday I will find someone who can fix it for me. Right now it hangs on a wall in my home. It looks like it came straight off one of the Valkyries or Queen Boudica's chest........

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      • collectorofcats
        collectorofcats Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-18 16:40:41

        @beequeen If it is a good piece of jewelry, have you thought about taking it to another jeweler or to a jewelry maker and having it altered?
        Sorry, I guess you are planning to. I didn't read the rest of your answer.

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    • collectorofcats
      collectorofcats Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-18 16:39:27

      @jadedforever There are so many things that I've bought which are absurd but the latest thing I bought was Lays Biscuits & gravy flavored chips. Not something I'll repeat. A coworker brought in chips that were flavored grilled cheese with tomato soup last week that weren't too bad.

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  • jadedforever
    jadedforever Doing 0 cheers 2017-06-11 05:52:10

    What's your mood?

    I'm feeling blue...

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    • 1234567
      1234567 0 cheers 2017-06-11 19:58:09

      @jadedforever Sore. I have toothache, will hopefully get to see a dentist soon!

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      • jadedforever
        jadedforever Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-12 04:17:29

        @1234567

        oh no, sorry to hear that.
        I need to go see the dentist too long overdue.
        Feel better.

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        • 1234567
          1234567 0 cheers 2017-06-12 06:09:57

          @jadedforever Thanks! I hope you feel better too. Why do you feel blue?

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          • jadedforever
            jadedforever Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-12 07:25:31

            @1234567

            Thanks for asking! πŸ™‚

            I was looking at some old pictures.
            They made me sad that I don't have a best friend/or any friends anymore...
            Also I was feeling that my life isn't very exciting we never do anything spontaneous.

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            • 1234567
              1234567 0 cheers 2017-06-12 07:27:36

              @jadedforever Ah. I know the feeling. I've just made two friends at a course I'm going to, and I don't know how to act normal around them, because my relationships up until now have been somewhat dysfuntional. Like, they want to talk to me everyday, and I find it weird.

              What do you want to do in your life?

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              • jadedforever
                jadedforever Doing 0 cheers 2017-06-12 07:45:44

                @1234567

                It's good that you have new friends!
                Do you just need your own space & alone time sometimes?

                I don't know what I want to do in/with my life.
                I just know that sometimes I feel like I'm missing out on something if that makes any sense.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 4 cheers 2017-06-05 21:22:00

    1) Do you have friends in your life that you have known for a long time?

    1a) How long have you known your dearest friend?

    2) Do you cultivate new friendships regularly?

    3) Have you had to let go of some friendships?

    Me:

    1) Yes! I have known several for 40 plus years, and some 20 plus years. (From elementary school and growing up, then from travel abroad or college.) Those relationships are amazing. To literally grow up with someone, from the time you are children together, or to have met years ago and kept the friendship alive....what a gift to have sustained those relationships thru time and change.....I have no words. Its just remarkable. A blessing.

    1a) 43 years!!! &#xsmile;

    2) Yes, I do cultivate new friendships too. Though I am very private; only people I really trust and respect come into the "inner circle" and become a regular part of my life. I also have a wide circle of acquaintances whose company I enjoy too. When I want company. LOL

    3) Yes, unfortunately. Each time (there have been only three I had to metaphorically jettison out the pod bay doors) it was because they violated my trust beyond the point of no return.

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    • taylor
      taylor Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-06 20:44:51

      Good question, @beequeen !
      1) Do you have friends in your life that you have known for a long time?

      Not so much from growing up and college, but I have a lot of friendships from work over the last 30+ years.

      1a) How long have you known your dearest friend?

      Aside from my wife, who I've known 35 years, a very dear friend dates back 30 years.

      2) Do you cultivate new friendships regularly?

      Yes. We had to move to a new city about 8 years ago and had to build a whole new local friendship network. In the last year, we've made many more new friends who we've become very close with.

      3) Have you had to let go of some friendships?
      Yes. My best friend from high school after he acted horribly toward my future wife. It was hard then, but looking back it was absolutely the best decision to make a break.

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-07 15:28:51

        @taylor

        Good answers thanks! :)

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        • taylor
          taylor Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-08 21:55:26

          @beequeen I'm glad that you have such long-lasting friendships. They must be a real joy to you. Do you live near where you grew up? My mom stayed in one city most of her life, and has some very long friendships, though she's also outliving many of them. I sometimes think about old friends from childhood and wonder where they are today, but think contacting them again might be awkward. And frankly, my life is very full now with current friends, and I'm not sure where I'd find the time.

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          • beequeen
            beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-12 14:17:16

            @taylor

            Hi Taylor, thank you!

            I moved back to the place I grew up a few years ago. Most of the people I "rekindled" older friendships with I am on a acquaintance/casual social basis, with the exception of the few that I kept in touch with all the years I lived away, with whom I have remained close. Those long term relationships are indeed a great source of joy. As are those I met in my travels over nearly a quarter century travelling and living elsewhere. I still keep in touch with a handful of them too, some nearly 25 years after we met as carefree youths backpacking Europe at the same time, or in college years.

            I understand the time constraint, and the desire to relish time with what is tried and true. Some old school friends have tried to connect with me more intimately vs. just casually social, but I am content for some relationships to remain acquaintanceships. They have their place in social structure too, and I do reciprocate when I feel I truly "click" with someone and make an effort to cultivate a new friendship where I find a real one.

            Many of my elderly relatives here have never lived elsewhere and they have friendships and relationships spanning entire lifetimes, like your mother. It is remarkable. I think it takes an equal but different sort of strength of character to stay rooted in one place all your life rather than be mobile as I have. Each path has sacrifices and blessings specific to both choices. I feel like I have had the best of both worlds, really.

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            • taylor
              taylor Doing 0 cheers 2017-06-12 19:31:56

              @beequeen I suppose FB would be the place to rekindle some of those old, old acquaintances, but I'm not really on FB as myself. Several years ago my wife and I joined but we put both our names on the account (first first last last) - her's first. We initially used it to keep up with friends from the place we moved away from 8 years ago, a lot of them my friends from work. Since then, we've added some mutual friends, but she's added many from a FB fan group she's very involved with. So she's kind of taken over the account. I'd start my own account, but don't relish running into old "friends" including the one I had to sever a relationship with, who I know is friends with my brother. Also, I have kind of a public job, and don't want potential enemies looking me up that way. Do I recall correctly that you eschew FB and the like? If so, how do you deal with people who want to be online friends?

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              • beequeen
                beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-13 14:11:37

                @taylor

                There are people here on 43 that I look forward to interacting with when I log on, like you, but I don't have an online presence as such. (This and Pinterest are it. And I don't interact at Pinterest, I go to get art and food ideas. I don't use my real name there either.)

                Yeah, I tried FB last year for about a month. It wasn't my thing.

                I am very old school. I abhor the way tech interaction has taken the place for most people of real bonafide face to face, heart to heart, mind to mind, soul to soul presence with other people. I feel surrounded by armies of distracted people. Its offensive to me to see so very many people with their attention CONSTANTLY tuned in to their "devices" and tuned out to what is going on around them. Especially parents, and drivers. One of the children in my life said to me a while ago that he liked spending time with me because I wasn't like his mom and other adults because I wasn't on my phone all the time. Out of the mouths of babes, eh?

                Like you, I also have a very public job, as well as a sibling in the entertainment industry, so online I like to keep a low profile anyway.

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                • taylor
                  taylor Doing 2 cheers 2017-06-13 19:27:41

                  @beequeen I think personal presence (physically and mindfully) is always preferable to being distracted by screens. I'm so glad you have that in your life! In defense of FB, I will say that the social network has enabled my wife and me to make some wonderful friendships with people across the country -- and have some really great in-person experiences that would not have been possible otherwise. We have two trips to Chicago planned in the next two months to get together with these friends. Will there be a lot of annoying group selfies? Probably. But seeing my wife blossom around her friends makes me so happy, especially after several years when her health kept her socially isolated.

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                  • beequeen
                    beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-06-16 16:27:51

                    @taylor I like to hear those kinds of FB anecdotes. It gives me faith that it has inherent value and can indeed add to the quality of peoples lives. Hope you and your wife have a great time in Chicago Taylor!

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    • MayKasaharawithalongtail
      MayKasaharawithalongtail Doing 2 cheers 2017-06-07 05:59:33

      @beequeen



      1. Yes, three of them



      2. Friend A - 43 years
        Friend B - 40 years
        Friend C - 38 years


      3. I prefer to let untrustworthy ones sink to the bottom without my having to give them the boot getting there. But occasionally, I have offered a bit of boot. I like to think it was mutual boot, but I never looked back to find out. πŸ™‚ :-)

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  • surreal86
    surreal86 Doing 2 cheers 2017-06-03 01:41:45

    If you could only keep 5 possessions, what would they be? I was asked this question and was stumped for a minute....

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