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  • ExplorerSoul
    ExplorerSoul 1 cheers 2017-08-19 19:45:52

    Do you think you could not buy anything new for a year?

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  • ExplorerSoul
    ExplorerSoul 1 cheers 2017-08-17 00:54:27

    Do you have many friends? Are your closest friendships new and/or old?

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    • ThatGirlIsRealCrowdPleaser
      ThatGirlIsRealCrowdPleaser Doing 1 cheers 2017-08-17 21:28:41

      @ExplorerSoul This made me think !!!!

      yess, I have many friends at my place , college including 43t but i cant count them in my books because i only can hangout with them .when it comes about personal i prefer being mum..... somewhere in friends i try to find my old budds..

      And if you ask me bout my closest friendships they are old. i am not planning make much new closest frndshp at this stage i dont want to deal with trust issues, understanding problems, heartbreaks, cruel games thats it ! wanna stay focused !
      btw i miss my old frndssss!! β™₯

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  • ThatGirlIsRealCrowdPleaser
    ThatGirlIsRealCrowdPleaser Doing 4 cheers 2017-08-13 02:29:12

    What is Music for you?
    🎶🎶🎶🎶

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    • ahorrasi
      ahorrasi Doing 2 cheers 2017-08-13 05:59:28

      @ThatGirlIsRealCrowdPleaser wow thats a really hard question lol i had never asked myself before

      when i was in high school the only thing in the universe i wanted to do was be a concert violinist but i was way behind and really shite at practicing so i got embroiled in suicidal behaviour/dysfunction then i moved across the world to escape the looney bin thanks to my previously estranged dad and started over being a drunk and never really did music seriously after that, save in small pockets of time IE the 2 or 3 times in college i'd try to place in the music school then fail for the above reasons

      am sort of doing it again 'for me' as an adult, especially after the influence of a dear new person in my life who showed me 'if you don't use it, you lose it' as well as there are some things worth fighting for

      so what does it all mean? I guess for me music would be like 'the one who got away'

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      • ThatGirlIsRealCrowdPleaser
        ThatGirlIsRealCrowdPleaser Doing 1 cheers 2017-08-13 19:27:19

        @ahorrasi I too believe in this criteria "if you dont use it, you lose it" & it affects. Sorry to hear that at some phase of life your love towards music faded. May be because reasons mentioned above but even after failing you enjoy or find pleasure doing it you should practice it because you enjoy it love it so what others think or people judging doesnt really matters .Matters what is what thrills you pleasures you! And you still have time to make it work.
        πŸ˜ƒ

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    • collectorofcats
      collectorofcats Doing 2 cheers 2017-08-13 13:56:42

      @ThatGirlIsRealCrowdPleaser When I was young I use to pretend that life was a musical and would think about what songs could be used in different situations. There is movie that uses all Beatle songs throughout and the actors sing the words. I think it is cool. I can't think of the movie's name.
      I also use to have a playlist on an MP3 that I planned to listen to if I went on a road trip.

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    • anne89
      anne89 Doing 1 cheers 2017-08-17 12:03:08

      @ThatGirlIsRealCrowdPleaser Music to me is joy and love and a powerful tool. I use it to express myself and to manipulate my mood and mental state, including helping me focus. oh and it helps me drown out unwanted noise, like when Im on a train ride and someone near me decides to eat slfksdlfjdjfdlksjflkdsjf god I hate eating sounds so much, and drowning it out with music literally keeps me from raging lol.

      I can't not dance and be happy when I listen to this one!
      it's about music too! haha
      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vogjd9rzUNQ

      Jain - Dynabeat
      Jain - Dynabeat - From "Zanaka", album available : http://smarturl.it/JainZanakaDeluxe --- Réalisation : Greg et Lio Production Executive : ART BRIDGE - Quad...
      YouTube
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    • beequeen
      beequeen Doing 3 cheers 2017-08-17 16:24:06

      @ThatGirlIsRealCrowdPleaser

      I always say that music is part of my own personal "religion". Ha ha....

      It has been part of my life since I was born; my Mother loves music and it was part of our household, whether she was playing it or we were. Music was always playing in our house. We were not TV people. All of us played music in our youth: she violin, me clarinet, others trumpet or drums. None of us kept it up in adulthood but we are all still very musically inclined as appreciators, listeners.

      It is still part of every day for me; at some point every day I am listening to music of one kind or another. It's a rare day that I don't. It's entertainment, solace, revelation, sex, rejuvenation, rest, inspiration, motivation, peace, it's healing, stimulating, enlightening, imaginative, exhilarating, empowering, meditative.

      That, and nature, are the soundtracks to my Life.

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    • taylor
      taylor Doing 1 cheers 2017-08-18 14:47:50

      @ThatGirlIsRealCrowdPleaser I have no aptitude for playing a musical instrument or singing, but music is a big part of my life. I like and listen to a lot of different kinds of music including jazz, blues and classical -- though mostly rock. Bruce Springsteen and the E Street Band are my favorite artists, and I listen to a lot of music from that genre. I'm listening to Little Steven's Underground Garage on SiriusXM as I write this.
      I'm always open to new artists, and appreciate a lot of music @beequeen posts here.
      When I met my wife many years ago, I fell in love with her despite her not caring much for Springsteen, and her favorite artists being Barry Manilow and Air Supply. But over the years she's really surprised me. In the 1990s she got into Cajun music, and recently she's become a big fan of Eddie Vedder, Soundgarden and Chris Cornell, something I never would have expected.

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  • taylor
    taylor Doing 1 cheers 2017-08-08 15:40:14

    Have any of your childhood enemies/bullies died? How did you feel?

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    • beequeen
      beequeen Doing 3 cheers 2017-08-08 16:57:04

      @taylor No. Not unless I include my father. How I felt when he died.....hmmm...well....we'd been grieving his loss for so long anyway, hard to say. He was an addict during my lifetime, so I never really knew who he was. I met Mr. Hyde more than Dr. Jekyll. I did like Dr. Jekyll OK when he happened to be around, which wasn't often enough to form much of a relationship with him, but there are some good memories too. Glass half full kinda gal am I.

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      • taylor
        taylor Doing 2 cheers 2017-08-08 20:35:31

        @beequeen I'm so sorry. Didn't mean to dredge up those kinds of memories, but thank you for sharing them with us. I was thinking about people we aren't related to, not considering it could be a family member.
        The other day I was looking back at some stuff for a high school reunion I did not attend, and noticed a list of classmates who had died. It was strange to see the name of one guy who had been really aggressive towards me. Not sure I'd exactly call him a bully, in that he never touched me. But he was a tough guy on the hockey team, and we had some really uncomfortable interactions.
        How did I feel? I'm still processing that. Fortunate that I outlived him. I don't want to feel "good" about it. Not relieved, because he would never be a threat again. Maybe a little bit old, given that about a dozen of my 500 classmates had died.

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        • beequeen
          beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-08-09 13:17:59

          @taylor No worries T, nothing was dredged up. And I, we, are all fine. (Mom, the siblings.) I thought you meant a non-relative, but that was the 1st thing that popped into my mind. It doesn't surprise me that you outlived him.

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    • fredvoorhies
      fredvoorhies Doing 1 cheers 2017-08-11 19:39:49

      @taylor an enemy i was over a friend house and i said good riddance when i found out i am sorry for his family but i really hated him

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    • wyverndust
      wyverndust Doing 1 cheers 2017-08-12 04:04:20

      @taylor not yet but I might dance on a few graves. When the mother of the worst bully died, I felt sad for him.

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    • ahorrasi
      ahorrasi Doing 1 cheers 2017-08-13 05:46:43

      @taylor there's only one person i really considered a bully, and a handful who were just really shitty friends (sort of abusive, really) and I sincerely do not know what happened to either of them since I long ago moved away from that situation - I think i feel more rancour towards the shitty friend than the bully however for probably obvious reasons

      i might facebook them see what comes up

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    • anne89
      anne89 Doing 0 cheers 2017-08-17 12:13:30

      @taylor honestly they were all just kids or adults with poor emotional and social skills. I've moved on. I'd feel indifferent if they died. or I'd be sad cause most of them are my age and that's too damn young to die.

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  • rainbowssparks
    rainbowssparks 3 cheers 2017-08-05 09:33:51

    Freedom of speech; how far does it go? Is it absolute, or is there a limit?

    Personally, I find it a difficult subject, as of course there are limits when you use it to make people look bad based on untrue events. Of course this is already punishable, so maybe not really part of the freedom of speech. I think I actually have a bigger problem with people that use the freedom of speech argument to keep on voicing their opinion to others, despite those not being interested in it. In my mind you can say whatever you want, but nobody is obliged to listen to you. If you said it once, got no response, you can keep on repeating it while yelling freedom of speech, but you are just going the wrong way about. Unfortunately there are too many people like this in this world.

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    • anne89
      anne89 Doing 2 cheers 2017-08-05 11:45:33

      @rainbowssparks basically.. you have the right to say whatever tf you want, and I have the right to tell you to stfu. but that's just between two people and the consequences are only for the quality of their relationship.

      in terms of government interference, the freedom should go pretty far, until people's lives are at stake. Don't threaten to injure or kill another person, it's illegal, simple.

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      • rainbowssparks
        rainbowssparks 0 cheers 2017-08-05 14:19:26

        @anne89 That is kind of the thing I mean, when person A says something that person B reacts to with 'shut the fuck up', meaning person B is not amused by it, or offended or whatever causes such a reaction. In that case, person A can easily throw in the freedom of speech excuse, while they very well know it is something person B does not want to hear. I really think people should think more about whether somebody else wants to hear their opinion or not. The right to say it does not mean you have to say it.

        When is somebodies life at stake? When you want to injure or kill people, sure simple as that, but you can also make life a living hell for people without ever threathening them directly. It is not illegal to call somebody worthless or and asshole, yet repeatedly saying this is not liked by anybody. I often hear, 'your freedom ends where that of another person starts'. All dandy and stuff, but it is pretty vague, but maybe that is the whole point, that no solid lines can be drawn?

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    • taylor
      taylor Doing 2 cheers 2017-08-08 15:45:40

      @rainbowssparks People who use the freedom of speech argument to justify obnoxiousness in private exchanges misunderstand what the First Amendment is about: the government being unable to censor you. If you're libeled or slandered, there are civil remedies. We put up with a lot of crap in order to have freedom of expression, and it can be incredibly frustrating for people who care about the truth. But the alternative is unthinkable.

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    • ahorrasi
      ahorrasi Doing 0 cheers 2017-08-13 05:48:44

      @rainbowssparks the simplest formulation seems to be "freedom of speech though not freedom from consequences" which actually now that i think about it doesn't really work, there's a contradiction there

      maybe theres no such thing in the REAL world as 'free speech', just as there's no such thing in the world as 'unbiased news' or there never was actual 'communism' or there hasn't ever been actual 'capitalism', etc. on and on comparing Platonic ideals to murky reality

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  • ExplorerSoul
    ExplorerSoul 0 cheers 2017-08-04 04:16:37

    What are your thoughts on volunteering?

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    • rainbowssparks
      rainbowssparks 2 cheers 2017-08-04 16:13:52

      @ExplorerSoul Depends on the kind of volunteering to be honest. I don't like the volunteering that revolves around helping poor people in poor countries for example. Mainly because that is just an industry and the only people that benefit from it are the companies offering these volunteering jobs. I never understood why some people pay to volunteer. Volunteering in a home for elderly, or you name it, I think that is good. Don't do it myself though.

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    • wyverndust
      wyverndust Doing 3 cheers 2017-08-05 01:22:28

      @ExplorerSoul when I moved to another country, it was difficult to find a paying job, although I had a work permit. I noticed that there was a special needs school near our home, so I asked them if I could volunteer there. After a few months, I established a local reference from my colleagues and superiors at the school, and I was able to find a good paying job elsewhere. In the mean time, my volunteer work turned into a part time paying job at the school as well. Volunteering is good for young people, too in many ways.

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    • spyrunner
      spyrunner Doing 1 cheers 2017-08-08 00:12:00

      @ExplorerSoul My company requires us to spend 18 hours a year volunteering for a non-religious organization. We usually go as a department, on company-time, but I still feel like I'm forced into doing something that I would rather not.

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    • ahorrasi
      ahorrasi Doing 0 cheers 2017-08-13 05:55:41

      @ExplorerSoul if i was materially/financially 'set' and otherwise creatively fulfilled (which wouldn't take much) I'd probably volunteer like 40 hours a week. I like to help ppl, i like to feel i am contributing, i like to do different sorts of events, charities, fun runs, bakes, fashion shows, art shows, threatre outings, etc etc etc but never go because 1) don't really have the time 2) don't really have the $$ 3) I always feel a bit purposeless when I go to an experience in a tourist capacity

      case in pt today there was a pretty ridiculous but sweet little event in the next town over that was basically a dog fashion show and i beleive they were raising $ for someting or other. A big part of me really wanted to Go but was waylaid by above 3 things. I can't reconcile those 3 things with driving 1 hour to see a bunch of PB midlife folks parading their dogs around by the river, as much as the little kid in me would like to see it. Especially considering I dont' really know anyone so nobody gains anything from my going, especially since i'm not going to spend $ on some random dog bollocks. But if I were volunteering, I'd get to go πŸ˜ƒ and make good social connections, and feel i was contributing.

      even old folks home and thigns i would probably enjoy though i never did that, it was always like the arts places and the garden and the raw food institute, etc. Then again it has been ahrd for me to volunteer for above reasons

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  • MayKasaharawithalongtail
    MayKasaharawithalongtail Doing 2 cheers 2017-08-03 04:49:14

    HAVE YOU ever broken someone's trust? Deliberately? Spill all.

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    • wyverndust
      wyverndust Doing 4 cheers 2017-08-03 05:48:44

      @MayKasaharawithalongtail this was not deliberate... close friend from school when we were young grew up and got married. she fixed me up with a date with her brother in law. Prior to the date, she had mentioned to me that her other brother in law was gay. She didn't warn me not to mention it to anyone else. So I did mention it to my date. Big family blow up. Her husband told her she was not allowed to speak to me any more. She has a new husband now, but she still hasn't spoken to me. It's been over 20 years, close to 30 years now. I did learn my lesson, though.

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    • rainbowssparks
      rainbowssparks 4 cheers 2017-08-03 18:09:54

      @MayKasaharawithalongtail I can't imagine anybody answering 'no' to the first question, or actually I can, but I won't buy it. Didn't we all have our trust broken at some point by someone? So it would be logical to asume we did it to others too, unknowingly and probably not in a very big way, but the small ways can hurt too. I definitely broke some peoples 'trust', eventhough it was misplaced since it was based on their expectations of me. I didn't meet their expectations, so they got hurt. Try not to have high expectations is my advise.

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      • MayKasaharawithalongtail
        MayKasaharawithalongtail Doing 2 cheers 2017-08-03 18:26:25

        @rainbowssparks I agree that some trust comes with unreasonable expectations. I have seen arbitrary rules set, all hinged on peculiar and absolute obedience. When the Rubicon was crossed, inevitably, there was a disappointment that was tantamount to a breach of trust.

        exempli gratia:
        ("You used the word "goodness"? Only God is goodness. I told you irreligious language was wrong, and you behaved in a contrary manner anyway. You, therefore, cannot be trusted.")

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    • ahorrasi
      ahorrasi Doing 3 cheers 2017-08-04 03:11:57

      @MayKasaharawithalongtail yes and yes, a weird situation where i was a woman's wingman in terms of cheating on her husband bc the husband was an absolute asshat, actually abusive, and it seemed a good idea at the time. I was not even 21 at the time FWIW I def would NEVER get involved in some crap like that now.

      and i once cheated on a BF then realized it was bc I didn't really like him and the next day I broke it off. Once again, only like 22. Ah, youth.

      I feel my worst sins are in my mind, and my worse disloyalties are in what i am capable of secretly believing about ppl, or thinking about ppl, usually in moments of stress or annoyance. I am untrustworthy whenever i shirk work, or overpromise/underdeliver, stuff like that

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    • taylor
      taylor Doing 3 cheers 2017-08-04 15:54:37

      @MayKasaharawithalongtail Unfortunately, I have. I went to an alternative K-12 school from grades 6 to 9. In my last year, there was an older girl, B, who was in 12th grade, and many of my friends had a crush on her, including my best friend. I liked her but wasn't really pursuing her, but one day B whispered to me in class that she was "sexually attracted" to me. I didn't get a chance to talk with her more that day, unfortunately, and she never told me it was a secret. But I was in heaven from this revelation, and couldn't keep it to myself. After school as a bunch of us (not including her) walked several blocks to where we caught the bus, I proudly told them all that B said she was sexually attracted to me. Obviously, it got back to her very quickly, and the next day she told me how embarrassed she was, and that she thought I did it just to humiliate her, and she would never trust me again. I tried talking to her, but she wouldn't listen. She was wrong about my motivations, but right about not being able to trust me. I was selfish, and put my need to brag above her feelings.
      Writing this now, I think about how much courage it must have taken for her to tell me something like that, and how thoughtless I was to her. I had to go check out her Facebook page. I reached out to her three years ago a few years after she gave my mom her email address (I know I should have done it sooner), but heard nothing back. Should I try again to make things right?

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      • rainbowssparks
        rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2017-08-04 16:16:29

        @taylor I'd say let it rest. If you reach out, do it because you are interested in how she is doing, not because you want to bring it up again and apologize. In all honesty, I think it is not such a big deal. At the time for the people involved yes, but now not anymore.

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      • MayKasaharawithalongtail
        MayKasaharawithalongtail Doing 2 cheers 2017-08-04 22:20:31

        @taylor I think you should reach out. If you hear nothing, you can let your mind rest. But I think it is a gracious gesture - and above the usual social expectation - to try again.

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  • co11yn
    co11yn Doing 0 cheers 2017-08-02 07:40:53

    What would my cousin's child be to my child? A third cousin?

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  • ahorrasi
    ahorrasi Doing 5 cheers 2017-08-02 04:35:28

    What's new with you?

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  • ExplorerSoul
    ExplorerSoul 4 cheers 2017-08-01 02:27:59

    Are there any little rituals you find yourself doing every day and if you don't, the day feels incomplete?

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