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  • rainbowssparks
    rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2017-05-22 19:36:49

    Has somebody ever done you great injustice?

    I mean something that significantly changed or damaged you, not Becky from the office who stole your sandwich 7 years ago. Unless Becky has been doing that every day since, that'd be great injustice.

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  • Stephanie
    Stephanie Done 1 cheers 2017-05-20 06:12:01

    What goals have you found the most worthwhile? For me it would probably be- live abroad, learn a language, lose weight, list 5 things I am grateful for each day, go back to school (for fun, rather than seriously) and keep a blog.

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    • Queen Purrs Like A Kitten
      Queen Purrs Like A Kitten 2 cheers 2017-05-20 07:44:16

      @Stephanie for me I made the "Clean out my closet" my flagged goal, and then I added "Do the minimalist challenge" so I combined the two and this month I am discarding things focusing on my bedroom/ensuite/Closet, and I am LOVING IT!!

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    • ahorrasi
      ahorrasi Doing 2 cheers 2017-05-20 07:55:28

      @Stephanie all diet and health goals (and this one's fun ๐Ÿ™‚ )

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    • aenea
      aenea Done 4 cheers 2017-05-20 17:32:30

      @Stephanie I have benefited most when my goals get me to think in new ways: be the change I want to see in the world; remember who I am and know where I'm going; search for lost time; create a world where women can walk anywhere, everywhere; maintain a happiness/gratitude journal; write haiku on Fridays; reread the Tao Te Ching

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    • rainbowssparks
      rainbowssparks 3 cheers 2017-05-20 22:29:12

      @Stephanie Hmmm I haven't really completed many goals yet, most of them are long-term. I'd say the most meaningful are my goals that are about personal growth. The ones that are fun goals are also important, because they remind me to take a break sometimes and just do something fun.

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  • anne89
    anne89 Doing 2 cheers 2017-05-19 13:25:27

    what do you have for dinner when you've run out of energy and motivation to make yourself dinner??

    (I've had pizza twice in a row now 😅 .. need some inspiration!)

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 6 cheers 2017-05-18 16:49:49

    If you are a parent, did you always know that you wanted children?

    I'd like to hear your story, and here's mine:

    I have never wanted to be a parent. Ever. I don't dislike children, in fact love some very much. I am supportive of family life (when created and sustained responsibly and with love and support by any kind of familial structure that works for those involved) and think pregnant women are truly beautiful, and that good parenting, by men and women alike, is noble. But I have never wanted any of that. It has always been enough for me to be a good sister, friend, auntie. I firmly believe in that adage that "it takes a village" to raise a child, and have been actively engaged in the lives of the children who are a part of my life. That has always been enough for me. (On the old 43 another gal had a goal "Achieve Favored Auntie Status" that I joined.....worth it!!! &#xsmile; )I have never felt that I missed out in any way by not becoming a parent.

    In my childbearing years people always kept asking: "WHEN are you going to have kids???" and then now people say "Oh, why did you never have children?". I know people mean well, and they often mean to be complimentary, but I find both statements judgmental. First of all, each question makes the assumption or value judgement that I SHOULD have had children, because of perceived biological or biblical imperative or cultural standards, I dunno. Second of all, with all due respect to parents and children everywhere, one less woman having a child or many children in an overpopulated world ought to be seen as what it is for many like myself: a conscious, responsible choice. I decided not to have children, I did not just find myself here by accident. Not to mention that there are already so many here deserving of the love, support and nurturing I have to give, and millions more who never get any of that from anyone, as populations continue to explode.

    I'd like for people who make this choice consciously to be as well respected as people who consciously choose its opposite. There are those women out there who deserve sympathy or empathy if they wanted kids and didn't get to have them, however, I am not one of them. I'd ask people to consider this the next time they question a woman about not having children. (And also consider that if she cannot have children but wants them that the question may be invasive and too personal for her, no matter how well intentioned you may be.) I'd also like this choice to, at the very least, garner more respect than the unconscious and irresponsible act of procreation whose end result is children who suffer because those that created them cannot or will not care for them in the manner that anyone brought into the world thru no choice of their own deserves.

    Anyway, that's my story. What's yours?

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    • Airos
      Airos Done 2 cheers 2017-05-19 02:08:49

      @beequeen First off, thanks to you and rainbowsparks for sharing. Culture has expectations and being with someone and being a parent are two of it's strongest. In many ways it is base animal nature. I don't know if we will ever get beyond that base nature, but I love that we are consciously trying to on many fronts, and kudos to both of you for being conscientious outliers.

      I remember having a plan to adopt children instead of having them because I think the world has around 3 to 4 times too many people. Felt pretty strongly about it. Also, really wanted to be married. Loneliness has been a theme in my life and in my early life the solution to that was to be married. Ascribing to the current cultural norm at the appropriate age I married the woman I was in love with. Opposites attract and that was very true of us.

      One of the many things we were opposite about was children. We both wanted them, but she was opposed to adopting. Having said that, our first child was a surprise. We were not married, I had a few nagging doubts about the viability of our relationship but being the optimist I made the decision to make it work. So a little after a year after my son was born we got married. We did agree that having more than one kid was important. I believe I brought up the idea of adopting then too. Was quickly shot down, in marriage, you pick your battles. So we got busy and within a month we were pregnant again, well she was anyway. Our first son was not easy, he had a strong will, still does. My second son was born 11 months after our wedding. He was the most charming little guy you could hope for, the ying to his brothers yang. I am a very proud father and am cognizant not to gush and write a novel about our children here.

      Two young boys in a townhouse, we decided my wife would stay home and were lucky enough that my business was successful enough that we could make that happen. Our sex life was near nil at this point but one night we had a friends over for wine night and some old passions flared up, and we beat the pill for a second time. We loved our boys, but so hoped to have a girl, and we did! For the first minute of life she didn't breath and that remains the most devastating experience of my life.

      So I have 3 amazing children now, 15, 13 and 9. I absolutely love being a parent and take the task very seriously. Claire I did have strong ideas on how to raise resilient children. Thankfully we mostly agree on how to raise them and work very well together as parents. But with 3 kids, and after being together as a couple for 13 years and married for 9, the differences I guess were just too much for her, and we separated 7 years ago. We are still a team though raising our kids and live 2 blocks apart. We both respect each other as parents and are both happier living apart. I have the kids half the week and she has them the other.

      Also, I have adopted a child, well an adult and not officially. She was 18 when I met her and is now 30. Like most adopted kids, she had a rough start in life. My first role was as her boss, and I manage people much the way I parent and coached. Inspiring, caring, my employees called it a family and she had never really had that. So over time the role kinda morphed and we just fell into those roles.

      I absolutely love being a parent and adore each my very different children who all get along with each other extremely well. We call ourselves Fun Inc. . . . Like I said I could go forever. I am so glad that I am a dad. I have no regrets.

      Funny thing, while I was writing this my ex called, both my sons texted me and so did my daughter-figure, she is sick right now. Their ears must be burning.

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      • rainbowssparks
        rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2017-05-19 18:22:48

        @Airos THat's quite a nice story! I think many people that go through divorce can take an example in how you dealt with it regarding the kids. Seems like it worked out all fine, good job!

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    • Queen Purrs Like A Kitten
      Queen Purrs Like A Kitten 0 cheers 2017-05-19 13:08:54

      @beequeen I never planned to have children, it was "expected" that you get married and be like your Parents and reproduce, I didnt want to, I was scared of the pain. So I married at 19, we brought our house when I was 20. And we both had jobs and life was good, until I got sick, the pill didnt work and BINGO! I'm pregnant.
      While I was terrified of needles, and hated going to every Dr appointment, I loved feeling that small thing growing inside me, I wrote her stories in her journal, I sang out loud to her, it really was instant love, until I had to deliver her, I was terrified, once the Dr said "Come into the hospital for a check up" I called my Dad crying saying Goodbye I was convinced I was going to die right then. My Father gave me a pep talk, my Mother laughed, she wasn't a caring Mother. I always swore I'd it better than she did.
      Guess what? I didn't die, I delivered a most perfect 8 pound baby girl, and discovered what true love at first sight really is.
      I love being a Mum, I did it four times all up, and they are my proudest, greatest acheivements. But even more than that they gave me Grand babies and that is a whole other level of love.
      All I have ever been is a Mum and now a Grandma and I wear my titles very proudly. Although I didnt want Motherhood, Im so blessed to have found it.

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    • aenea
      aenea Done 2 cheers 2017-05-19 23:25:41

      @beequeen no, I adamantly did not want children when I was younger, having spent much of my youth babysitting and finding it exhausting. My first child was the result of birth control pill failure, about seven years into an intentionally childless marriage. She is lovely however and I wouldn't trade her for the world. Also, I have her to thank for making me get out of what turned into a very unhealthy relationship. It's one thing for me to put up with abuse but I will not tolerate the abuse of innocents.

      I'm currently contemplating a second child with my new husband. I have my reservations about it, being very environmentally conscientious, but have pretty much made peace with the idea, and here's why: Global population is growing, but that in my country is actually declining. The quality of life in my country is also ranked as being much higher than many, and so I feel that my child will have better opportunities for a comfortable life. Maslow's hierarchy of needs indicates that people make societal progress only when basic needs are met. So comfortable life equals better odds of progress for humanity. Progress for humanity seems like a worthy aspiration to me. Our world needs help.

      May seem like a bit of an overanalytical approach, but that's how my mind works.

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    • wyverndust
      wyverndust Doing 3 cheers 2017-05-20 04:34:43

      @beequeen A psychic once told me that I was supposed to have had 3 children. My first husband really wanted kids. I wasn't ready. Glad we didn't have children. I remember he said, "I guess I won't be having children with my wife." And he said it as if he planned to have children with someone else.

      Once I decided that I wanted to be a mother, my body developed some issues. It isn't possible for me to become pregnant. It's ok. My current partner does not want children. We are getting closer to 50, and I understand. It's for the best.

      My nephew is 17 and does not need me the way he did when he was younger. This was tough for me, as it was lovely to spoil him all those years.

      I care for a 5 year old dog now.

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    • Airos
      Airos Done 1 cheers 2017-05-20 19:38:30

      @beequeen Thanks for this question, I feel closer to all those who took the time to answer.

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  • entrus
    entrus 2 cheers 2017-05-18 12:42:05

    Heeeey, good to see this back. I miss the old site though :]

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    • beequeen
      beequeen Doing 0 cheers 2017-05-18 16:04:12

      @entrus

      Welcome back.

      Yeah, I miss it to, but everything in its time, eh?

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    • Airos
      Airos Done 0 cheers 2017-05-19 00:41:46

      @entrus This site has the same spirit I believe. I was one of the first people on the old site too and remember the 'quiet' days back then too. It falls on us to make the site what we want.

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  • rainbowssparks
    rainbowssparks 0 cheers 2017-05-18 00:58:55

    Do you think there should be a new Godwin's law about Trump?

    It seems somehow he gets mentioned in everything nowadays.

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    • Stephanie
      Stephanie Done 3 cheers 2017-05-18 04:02:24

      @rainbowssparks Let's get rid of him first

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    • wyverndust
      wyverndust Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-18 05:23:35

      @rainbowssparks maybe they could name it Ivanka's Law

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    • Airos
      Airos Done 2 cheers 2017-05-18 08:40:48

      @rainbowssparks Pretty sure he broke Godwin's law a long time ago.

      John Oliver suggested that the verdict is so clearly in that perhaps it is time to start seriously talking about the people (congress) that should step up and why they are not. Ignore all the Trump distractions and l start asking why nothing is being done about it.

      I am not American, I understand there exists a certain sentimentality about standing behind the president no matter what, but . . . for how long?

      What I really don't understand he still has a 42% approval rating. Man that country is divided. Pretty soon someone needs change the name to D.S.A. because United is not very descriptive.

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      • rainbowssparks
        rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2017-05-18 14:47:42

        @Airos To me it is also surprising the pitchforks haven't come out yet (or maybe pitchfork owners are Trump voters, somebody should make statistics of this ;)). As much as I dislike Trump I try to see the positive side to it.... sometimes you need a fool to point out the flaws in the system. America now has its fool, the question is will the American people take this opportunity to say, this needs to be fixed? I certainly hope so and seeing that a lot of people disagree with him gives me a little bit of hope, but time will tell.

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    • ahorrasi
      ahorrasi Doing 0 cheers 2017-05-20 07:57:18

      @rainbowssparks yes please and thank you

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  • Stephanie
    Stephanie Done 2 cheers 2017-05-17 14:40:46

    If you could give yourself a new name, what would it be?

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    • rainbowssparks
      rainbowssparks 3 cheers 2017-05-17 22:51:41

      @Stephanie Hmm, I wouldn't give myself another name, boring answer, but the truth. It would be totally weird to have a different name all of a sudden.

      Even when I try to think of some names it just is too weird to really stick. I guess I'm just content with the names I've got.

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      • Stephanie
        Stephanie Done 1 cheers 2017-05-17 23:06:25

        @rainbowssparks We had to come up with a new name in creative writing class. I don't love my name, but I'm also used to it. I ended up saying my new name was "..."- basically it was a mystery, or left to someones imagination. I don't mind what people call me, as long as its not offensive.

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        • rainbowssparks
          rainbowssparks 2 cheers 2017-05-17 23:11:49

          @Stephanie It might be a nice experiment to ask people to guess your name and see what they think fits. My name is a bit hard to pronounce for foreigners, so I've been called a variety of versions of my name, which I am totally ok with.If someone would suddenly start calling me something totally different I would probably look really puzzled. :D

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          • Stephanie
            Stephanie Done 2 cheers 2017-05-17 23:14:11

            @rainbowssparks People usually think my name is Jessica or Tiffany.

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            • rainbowssparks
              rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2017-05-17 23:18:21

              @Stephanie Ha, that is funny. Would you rather have one of those names than your own? I'd kinda be bummed if people would tell me 'oh, you strike me as a ....' and than say a name I dislike. I tend to like or dislike names according to the people I know, if I like somebody I'm more likely to think the name is cool. If I dislike somebody I really dislike the name too. Exceptions occur of course, but it is funny how this works for me.

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              • Stephanie
                Stephanie Done 2 cheers 2017-05-17 23:20:23

                @rainbowssparks All of the names sound kinda trashy to me. I think Tiffany sounds kinda similar to Stephanie (people may mishear me when I tell them my name). The Jessica is a mystery to me. I think Jessica is probably the most okay out of the names. I once knew a lovely girl called Jessica, she was one of my childhood friends.

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            • wyverndust
              wyverndust Doing 2 cheers 2017-05-17 23:19:52

              @Stephanie lots of people have accidentally called me Rachel in many settings in 2 different countries even. It's weird.

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    • Airos
      Airos Done 2 cheers 2017-05-18 08:16:23

      @Stephanie Tom, I would like to be Tom. Every Tom I can think of is a good guy. Tom Hanks, Tom Arnold, Tom Goodwin, Tom Brady, yes even Tom Cruise has a certain charm. You may not agree with everything they say or do, but I find myself still liking all the Tom's I can think of. Perhaps there is an outlier Tom out there that is a real creep. But every Tom I have met personally has been a stand up guy. I would feel honoured to be called Tom.

      Maybe it might be fun to play the game you had to play in your class and be your character out there in the world. I may just do that. I often fake accents on outing so why not just take it a step further? Oh good fun. I could be Tom Airos. "Hi my name is Airos, Tom Airos."

      It is late, I am a getting silly, please forgive.

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  • Airos
    Airos Done 3 cheers 2017-05-17 04:12:10

    Is the world getting better or worse?

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    • diamondlightfoot
      diamondlightfoot 1 cheers 2017-05-17 12:04:24

      @Stephanie I agree.

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    • anne89
      anne89 Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-17 16:35:02

      @Airos statistically, I think better actually. I would look up research studies to back this up but I don't feel like it. ๐Ÿ™ƒ

      but like, aren't we all evolving and growing as a person? I know I am and I see people around me becoming better people as well.

      for sure it may seem more awful in the world, especially due to that toddler cheeto for president, but look at the amount of people stirred awake because of it, look at the movement and think long-term. I am quite hopeful for the future!

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    • rainbowssparks
      rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2017-05-17 22:48:31

      @Airos Depends of course where on the world you want to take a look, but overall I guess it gets better. I worry though that for the western world it gets worse.

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      • spatz
        spatz Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-18 05:00:37

        @Airos I agree with @rainbowssparks - overall, things get better. Childhood mortality is going down, diseases eradicated, less people dying of malnutrition. That of course doesn't mean it's gotten better for everyone....

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    • spyrunner
      spyrunner Doing 3 cheers 2017-05-19 01:49:28

      @Airos The world is actually getting much better. People don't die of the plague, scurvy, or many other illnesses. Natural disasters affect fewer people. We are living longer, working less, have more income than our grandparents. We have information at our fingertips - literally. You can eat food from all over the world. You can pick your own career and spouse and where to live. It's a great time to be alive.

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    • ahorrasi
      ahorrasi Doing 0 cheers 2017-05-19 22:13:41

      @airos it's all the same ole shite, different costume

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  • Airos
    Airos Done 6 cheers 2017-05-12 21:41:46

    The End of Work:

    The world is trending towards a significant social restructuring. Already huge chunks of the manufacturing sector have been automated. There are self checkouts in the markets. Self driving cars are just around the corner. Low skilled labour has and will continue to be displaced by robots. Sorry Trump, foreigners didn't take American jobs, your rich friends increased profits by replacing workers with robots. Even coal mining is largely automated.

    With self driving vehicles coming - taxi and bus drivers will be out of work, long haul trucking will be the first hit. Uber and Lift? Buy a self driving car or two, send them to work and stay at home and watch Netflix. Who wouldn't do that? I am really looking forward to the laundry-bot.

    As AI gets better, higher and more skilled jobs will be taken over. Within the next 100 or so years most every job will be automated. The transition has started and it will be a central issue of our and our kid's life-times.

    3 questions:


    • Why is this not being discussed more?


    Two more difficult q's; If humans don't have to work:


    • How will we spend our time?

    • How will we allocate our resources?

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    • aenea
      aenea Done 4 cheers 2017-05-12 22:34:20

      @Airos The Gaurdian just had an article about this very issue earlier this week. They make brief mention of universal basic income which I think is a key piece. Some countries are already implementing test programs for it. The pessimist in me however thinks we'll probably end up more in an Elysium scenario, with only the wealthy benefiting from technology.

      All the talk of virtual reality makes me think of another movie also: Wall-E. I think there has to be more to life than VR, but I guess as the author suggests it comes down to your interpretation of what VR is. I for one would love to have more spare time in my days to spend on escapist creative hobbies like art, music, dance, and reading.

      The meaning of life in a world without work
      As technology renders jobs obsolete, what will keep us busy? Sapiens author Yuval Noah Harari examines ‘the useless class’ and a new quest for purpose
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      • Airos
        Airos Done 3 cheers 2017-05-12 23:19:53

        @aenea I personally don't see me having too much difficulty filling my time. Heck, I could spend more time on 43T if I didn't have to work. Also, hanging with my friends, geocaching, reading, creating things in my shop . . . all the things I dismiss now because I feel I just don't have time for.

        I think art would still be a human pursuit and the consumption of it. There is a documented human need to be productive in some sense, to create and that would persist. I am sure some people might laze around like the people in Wall-E but I would not be one of them and frankly I believe they would be the minority. Movies would still be made, music would still be made. One of things I have wanted to do but never really had the time is to write a book. Too bad I will likely won't live to see it though. It could be quite nice.

        Although, can't dismiss a Terminator like scenario either. I know my phone and computer get glitchy and do weird things. That is one of my concerns with self driving cars. But in the end I think there would a lot less accidents even with that happening occasionally before they worked all the bugs out.

        Universal basic income, hmmm. I know it is a dangerous word due to heaps of propaganda. But the Marks and Engels envisioned that communism was a natural progression after a free market had ran it's course and there was enough capital to be distributed so that everyone had more than enough. Obviously not too popular among the upper 1% and I suppose those aspiring to be there (and psychopaths). Although . . . Gates has given away a lot of his money already. Musk and Branson seem keen on improving society, sometimes in very altruistic ways. Should be a very interesting century.

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      • Airos
        Airos Done 1 cheers 2017-05-12 23:31:12

        @aenea That is quite the article, equating religion with video games. Interesting perspective.

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        • aenea
          aenea Done 0 cheers 2017-05-13 00:13:22

          @Airos ha yes I had to stop myself from laughing out loud when I read the opening to that argument.

          I debated about putting a warning before the link but I think keeping an open mind is good.

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    • ahorrasi
      ahorrasi Doing 0 cheers 2017-05-20 07:58:21

      @Airos universal basic income

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 9 cheers 2017-05-12 17:03:20

    Do you ever feel that common courtesy is becoming a thing of the past?

    I ask, because yes, sometimes I do. And now, we have a P......we have a Pr......a Pres......I can't even say it. Because he isn't remotely presidential. He is a buffoon. And I am being kind, I am displaying common courtesy and behaving respectfully towards The Office even as I have no respect for the man.

    Anyway.......so now there's this person sitting as leader of the free world who is rudeness and insensitivity incarnate. As such, a very, very poor example of civility, courtesy, communication, respect, tolerance. He is but an example of what I feel has been happening to the people in my country for the last ten.....fifteen years. When, and why did the tide turn in my America and my compatriots become so utterly lacking in common courtesy?

    (Can you tell I have spent the better part of two days dealing with difficult people with no manners? LOL But seriously, thoughts?)

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    • anne89
      anne89 Doing 2 cheers 2017-05-12 18:07:01

      @beequeen I think it stems from people feeling disconnected & disregarded. to put it simply, "if society doesn't care about people like me, Im not going to care about society!" "fuck people/the government/the system, I'm just gonna stand up for me and my own"

      I'm not American but I see y'all on the news and on social media and in TV shows and movies every day so.. ๐Ÿ˜‰ oh and pretty much the same thing is happening all over Europe.

      I do also feel like it's getting worse, but I don't think it's a generational thing, because old people are also being rude af. (!!) but it still might be a movement in society as a whole.

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-15 19:52:13

        @anne89 I see your point, and that may be part of it. I also believe that Americans have an appalling sense of entitlement, a general lack of education about other cultures, and are generally very materialistic.

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        • anne89
          anne89 Doing 2 cheers 2017-05-17 16:21:46

          @beequeen ah yes, I do see that. the self-centeredness that is in American culture can easily lead to selfishness and rude behavior. it's like "me me me me me, more for me!" and "move bitch! get out da way!" ๐Ÿ˜› (now I have that song in my head..)

          I think growing up in a culture like that it takes a deliberate decision to know about and be mindful and respectful of other countries, cultures and people. But this is also a movement I see! young people (millennials and generation z) on tumblr trying to educate themselves and each other about issues in society. there's like this high sense of responsibility. oh and they also tend to be minimalistic!

          I do believe it's a direct response to the baby boomer generation.
          (google "fucking baby boomers" if you want and look at the related searches hahah)

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    • cluricaune
      cluricaune 7 cheers 2017-05-12 19:09:29

      @beequeen Recently, I've seen some people refer to Angela Merkel as the Leader of the Free World. She's much more deserving of the title that the inept, lying bigot who's currently based in the White House.

      @anne89 Personally, I'm hoping the recent election results in the Netherlands and France will see things moving back towards normality and away from isolationism.

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    • Airos
      Airos Done 6 cheers 2017-05-12 19:47:04

      @beequeen I hear you about your . . . electoral college winner. I am flabbergasted that he won. I know people voted for him for a wide variety of reasons, but that fact that so many did makes me think much, much less of your country as a whole. A big part of that is agreement or at the very least the pass given to the sexism, racism, the mocking of those with opposing views (ironically given his many hipocratic views), the degradation of mentally handicapped . . . on display during the campaign. Which is just not befitting of a person let alone a leader. The FACT that so many people voted for him makes me seriously not want to set foot in your country.

      But that is bit off the question. I have to say I am not sure. I see an ebb and flow. I live in Canada and part of national identity is to be polite and out in the world I do find most people to be generally fairly polite. In my past travels to America I found people engaging and polite for the most part, but perhaps they were just responding to me. The only rude thing I found was the response to 'thank-you' but I figure the 'uh-huh' is just the culturally conditioned response.

      If I had to say, overall in the world we are trending towards a greater understanding and respect for others on a whole. Which, in the end, will result in a more polite world. The Trump win and Brexit are a fear response to that trend. But that could easily get derailed. I hope in 50 years that leaders like Trump and Putin will be seen as desperate last gasps of antiquated nationalistic, racist, sexist, noninclusive thinking that has plagued the world for far too long. That is my greatest hope.

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 5 cheers 2017-05-15 20:16:10

        @Airos

        Yes. I am appalled. I am disappointed in my compatriots for their short sightedness, and their acceptance of someone for whom the bar of standards and integrity has been set so low all he need do is slither under it to garner their applause and approval. I am left utterly gobsmacked by the fact that there are women out there who voted for and support him, and that men and women still continue to do so even though he is clearly uninformed, and mentally and emotionally unstable.

        I truly hope that you are right re the world trending toward greater understanding and respect toward one another individually and culturally. I am typically a glass half full rose colored spectacles kinda gal in love with the life and living, and I want to continue to be.

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        • ligemst
          ligemst Done 2 cheers 2017-05-15 22:39:47

          @beequeen Then I am one of the people you're disappointed in. I voted for Trump for a myriad of reasons. None of the reasons I voted for were because of maybe his mannerisms that I do not care for. I'm not going to get into a debate or anything with you nor anyone else.

          BTW, I'm not offended at what you wrote or your opinion. It's your opinion and it's certainly fine by me regarding your opinion. But, I'd just like to share that maybe many people whom you think voted for Trump were idiots, really aren't. They are every day people that were sick of what was happening to our country and wanted someone that was very different. People gave Obama a chance and he didn't follow through in the 8 yrs. he was in office.

          I consider myself and many others, too, both on the liberal as well as conservative side, think that I'm a pretty decent person. I'm not an idiot, nor brainless. I'm a very hard working, intelligent, educated woman who is married with children. My husband and I pay our fair share of taxes, which is quite a bit, but we don't try to pay more than we legally need to. And, we are generous people and do save a portion of our money to help other people out.

          We live peacefully with our neighbors and try to be a good influence and contributors to our world. We correct and discipline our children. We generally have a positive home environment, but when correction and discipline are needed, we do so. Our children are model students whom get really great grades, volunteer, help others out, are very talented.

          People compliment us all the time on how well mannered our kids are, and today I got a compliment on how nice and courteous I was. Also, when I was at the grocery store I frequent, I left without paying for something accidentally. A bag of raw almonds (about $5 worth). I had gotten to my car and saw that sitting in the basket. I was in a hurry but I went back into the store and paid for it.

          No one but God would have known that it wasn't paid for when I walked out to the parking lot, but that would have been stealing and wrong. I always do the right thing no matter what the inconvenience or how hard is it. I can bet that the majority of people would have let it slide and said, the store can handle the loss. What would you have done? It was hot, windy, and I was already behind schedule.

          My kids have been yelled at for them holding the door for others as a common courteous thing, especially my son. We let people all the time go ahead of us in line at the store. We see someone that needs an extra hand, we help them. We throw trash in the trash can. We put the baskets back where they are supposed to be or shopping carts. We don't litter.

          That is the norm for us and not the exception. If you asked my children what they are grateful for, they could easily name off literally hundreds of things they are thankful for because it's something I've been doing with my kids for years every day - verbally sharing our gratitudes.

          We help out the homeless and other people that just maybe have fallen on hard times regardless of their political, religious or whatever views. We view people as human beings and aren't threatened by whatever their views are (unless they are trying to harm us). We teach our children good boundaries and we try to have those in our lives and homes.

          We sit nearly daily for family dinners all together at the dinner table - no electronics, and we just talk and eat. I am not emotionally unstable, however, there maybe be times that I can be as I have two teenagers and that can challenge many people. We are actively every day helping our children become their best.

          I am not easily offended and worked in some pretty tough environments were there was not only sexual harassment, maybe some racial discrimination, sexist views . . . but, instead of being bitter about it and forcing others to my views by bashing them, calling them names, etc., I decided the best way to change people's minds were to be a decent, kind, courteous person that treated everyone well no matter what. I decided I would be the best I could be with God's help, and do the best job as a female mechanical engineer working in a very male dominated, old schooled world. I would work hard, longer, produce better results. No one has anything bad to say about me, because I was an excellent engineer and employee.

          I was very successful in my career for 15 yrs until I chose to stay home with my kids who were pretty young then. That was 10 yrs ago I made that decision. It was a challenge to integrate from being a mechanical engineer to being a homemaker. I faced discrimination also from moms whom had never worked out in the corporate world in such a harsh environment and thought I could not relate to them.

          The thing was, I chose for a period of time to not relate because of my own pride. Now, having been a homemaker for the past 10 yrs, I can tell you it's pretty challenging and probably even more challenging than my mechanical engineering career, in some respects. I had to change how I view people and when I did, even if their opinions were far different than mine, my relationship with them changed for the better. I win people to love me no matter where I am because I treat people well.

          It wasn't me against them, but it was US working together for the greater good. Wanting for the failure of Trump means wanting for the U.S. to fail. I never want any POTUS to fail, no matter what the party or policies.

          Maybe the things you've seen of Trump are bad, but I've seen many speeches and times he's interacted with others to be good and that he's been very gracious, especially to our military and those whom have sacrificed for this country. Has he lost his temper and said things that he shouldn't have? Yes. Have you? I have. I know, he's a public figure and you're not and he should be able to control himself better. Well, he didn't, but I see many good things he is doing.

          When Obama was President and I did not vote for him either times, I still prayed for him to do things that were good for our country to make it a better place to live. I've seen things forced on me that I didn't want and we have to live with. Okay, that's fine, but when I voted, I wanted to make sure that we weren't going to have another 4 more years of that.

          Ask yourself why would half the country choose to vote for Trump? The media had said that Hilary was a sure thing and that she had in some polls over 90% of the voters voting for her. Do you think the media might have been lying or the pollsters?

          And apparently half the country thought so, too. The thing is, life isn't always fair and if we keep whining about what isn't fair instead of doing good things to make life better, what good is that doing? It's just stirring up more trouble. I felt with Obama, so many things were made to be racial that didn't need to be. I was called a racist a number of times for not voting for Obama.

          I would not vote for someone who's policies are against what I stand for and it has nothing to do with ethnicity. My 2nd husband is Black and my children are half Black and half Chinese. My first husband was a red-headed Irishman. My current husband is Colombian. I highly doubt I'm racist. And many of the people that have called me racist, well, they would never have the racial diversity that I've had in my own family. So who is racist? Why do I have so many husbands? Well, my life's journey has had some pitfalls and bad choices, and I'm learning on this journey. Learning more quickly as I age.

          Dr. Ben Carson is who I wanted for POTUS. It wasn't because he's Black, but because of the policies he stood for. Unfortunately, he was not the Republican Presidential candidate. Would I vote for a woman as POTUS? Yes, but not Hilary. I never respected her even from the time her husband was POTUS. Why would I vote for her as President?

          Is there a woman I would vote for as President? I like Condoleezza Rice. I vote for the person that best represents my policies. I can handle if they don't say things in the way I'd like. I'm not so fragile that I'll break. We've also taught our own kids to not be so fragile and that not everything has to be feel good.

          If you need everything to be feel good, it's fine. But I've found raising kids to think life has to be fair is a disservice. Raising kids to believe that life is fair, is really lying to them. Raising kids to not have good, healthy boundaries, to not be corrected or disciplined, or to be responsible people . . . well, not good. Raising kids to feel they are entitled to everything and don't have to work hard, work smart . . . well, welcome to the United States. You don't have to work or earn your way, but you're entitled to everything.

          Raising kids to say whatever they want without regard - freedom of speech also means there is a responsibility for what you say. Yes, Trump has said things, especially way back when that he shouldn't have. If any of us has NEVER said a wrong word or the wrong thing (not justifying anyone to say anything), let us then judge others. I've heard some pretty nasty things as a female mechanical engineer said to me, said about other women, etc. After people got to know me and saw my amazing work ethic, some even apologized to me for their rotten words.

          I think living an amazing life, treating people super wonderfully, you just can't go wrong and that's regardless of their views, beliefs, etc. We are all human beings.

          Maybe what you deem as Trump being uninformed is really more that he's not doing things the way you would like. There are many things I do not like in life that I live with. If I can do something about it, I do. If not, I live with it and just move on.

          I don't know if the world is becoming more understanding. I do see that if my views are different than the media's and those who agree with the media, that I can be bashed, ridiculed, and maybe even harmed for having a different view. The media is incredibly intolerant of opposing views. They do not truly support diversity, only their views.

          Thankfully my son's soccer team isn't representative of the media. We have families with a myriad of political, religious and other views in our team and we can all get along and be supportive of each other and our differences without forcing others to believe and do as we do.

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          • aenea
            aenea Done 4 cheers 2017-05-16 05:07:43

            @ligemst can you give some specific examples of Trump policies that you support? I'm just curious, as it's so unfathomable to me. I promise that I won't criticize, critique, or otherwise start a political rant. I can't promise the same of others, so of course discretion would be understandable.

            I have relatives that voted for him and I suspect it was largely for religious reasons, specifically about abortion. I still talk to them, though things are strained to some extent; it's no use talking politics with them at all, and I feel more distant from them than ever.

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            • ligemst
              ligemst Done 1 cheers 2017-05-16 14:06:30

              @aenea Yes, I can.

              My number one policy is abortion. You can make it about religion, but I do believe every life matters, especially the innocent who have done nothing to deserve death. I also, however, also believe in capital punishment, too, but Trump did not run on this. We are a nation of laws and I believe the laws of this land should be enforced.

              As for healthcare, I did not find Obamacare to be helpful to me, but to be costly and I did not get to keep all my providers. The deductibles were high, premiums kept going up. However, I was able to stop using Obamacare because we were able to get health insurance through my husband's company before things got totally ridiculous. I live in Arizona.

              Obamacare was too costly and restrictive for many healthcare companies, which is one of the huge reasons why many began to abandon it. Companies are in business to make money, not lose. If you can't sustain a profit, then one has to close one's business or move elsewhere, which is what many companies did, which created monopolies in some states.

              Monopolies with any companies, whether healthcare or whatnot are maybe good for that company, but it's not good for a free market. It allows them to be able to sell things at exorbitant prices - supply & demand.

              For immigration, I am for enforcing the current immigration laws that we have. Obama was not doing that entirely and was just too lax. I am not for open borders, just like none of us (unless we're homeless) leave our doors opened in our homes or apartments all the time for anyone to come in and out of. Why? Well, I hope I don't need to explain that.

              I do not like a big government or government too much control of our lives. Some things are okay, but I find there is more and more government control and I don't like that. I don't like being forced to pay high taxes, but I do believe taxes should be paid.

              Just because a person is financially wealthy should not be a penalty. I am not for socialism nor communism nor any form of dictatorship. I like our current Constitution and the Bill of Rights, that system and I think it's timeless. Technology may change, but the essence of the society is still the same.

              However, I am for people choosing to help those less fortunate than them and not being forced to do this in any manner, whether by government, religion, work or whatever. I think having a strong family foundation is necessary because if you don't teach and role model generosity, compassion, you expect the government to teach and enforce this?

              I am for changing the tax structure. What I would like to see is a flat tax, but that won't happen. However, I have seen for nearly 2 decades jobs here in the U.S. go out of this country - white and blue collar jobs and have worked for companies that did this. So, I like that taxation is going to change not only for individuals but for corporations to afford to be able to come back to the U.S. My own family has been affected by this more than once high tech jobs going to China, India.

              I believe in helping other countries, but not until after we've made sure our own people in the U.S. are taken care of, especially veterans, our military, police officers, fire fighters, true public servants and not politicians who skirt the law. I know some people would rather help other countries FIRST and don't give a crap about those serving our country, but it would be liken to you giving money to help your friends out while the basic needs from your own family aren't provided for. Your kids are starving and malnourished. They don't have decent clothing or safe drinking water. But your friends are living it up high on what you're providing them.

              I think there needs to be greater accountability of politicians who are supposed to serve the people and I like term limits, but I don't think he ran on this.

              As for IS*IS, they are terrorists and they need to be dealt with harshly, not be a pansy to and cater to.

              Furthermore on immigration, I am for the ban on the countries Trump did the temporary ban, which was a ban on countries, NOT being Muslim. If you were a Christian or Buddhist or whatever religion (or not) coming from those countries, that included those people, too. The media led people to believe that it was on Muslims.

              I have Iranian and Syrian friends who were in support of the temporary ban. And, refuges do need to be vetted. If they cannot be vetted, then they can't come to the country.

              I am for deporting permanently all illegal immigrants who commit felonies. Felonies are serious crimes. If you're here illegally, but haven't committed a felony (like rape, murder, things of this ilk), then they should be allowed to (and they are) become legal immigrants. THEY (the illegal immigrants) need to go through the process that all legal immigrants go through to become legal. It is a process and it takes years (time), money, lots of forms, etc. It's doable even if you don't make a lot. You just have to save.

              We are currently going through the process with my husband. He has a 10-yr Green Card and will be applying for U.S. citizenship this year. We know many legal immigrants whom have done all the things they need to be legal. However, if you were a criminal of some type in the country that you came from, it will be much harder, or maybe impossible to immigrate here. So, all the people I know whom have legally immigrated here, none had any criminal issues in the countries they came from.

              The argument that illegal immigrants pay taxes doesn't jive with me. Maybe they do, but if they do, you have to have a social security number to pay taxes. In order to get a social security number, then you need to be legal. If you're illegal with a legal social security number, then how you get one is through stealing someone else's identity, which is illegal.

              So, if your identity has been stolen, tell me the fun of what you have to go through to get this corrected. For some, their whole financial status gets destroyed at no fault of their own, but someone stealing their identity. What about the victims of identity theft?

              I did not like our dealings with NAFTA. It did not seem in the best interest of helping the U.S. as much as it was helping other countries more. To me, this was wasting money.

              Of course Mexico and other countries that we are currently in, supplying many of their jobs, boosting their economy at the cost of ours, well, they're going to be unhappy about this. We've helped them out long enough. We have to help our own people more.

              I don't like wasteful spending period, government, my own budget, any companies I have worked for. I've always tried to use money wisely no matter whose money it was. I like to buy the best I can with whatever money I have, at the best cost. I believe negotiating is a great art and skill.

              For Trump's mannerisms, I don't care for them too much. He's pretty direct. I'm pretty direct. However, he is too much direct for me. However, he's a billionaire, and I'm not. He's able to get things done.

              I am for getting rid of politicians who truly no longer serve the people they represent. However, it must be done in a process that is legal, logic, and proof that they are not serving the people they represent and not based on emotions and hysteria. That is for any side of the political fence you stand on.

              I am for cracking down on fraud of the current social government systems we have, like the welfare system or social security. I don't believe Trump ran specifically on this, but I personally think that the welfare system was created to temporarily help people, but not create generations of families to be dependent upon welfare.

              Yes, I can acknowledge and have compassion that some people have had something bad happen and have fallen on hard times, like losing a job or someone getting really sick or some terminal disease, yes, welfare is for those people. It's meant to be a temporary aid to help people get back on their feet, not as a way of life.

              I've seen people repeatedly abuse this through the food & nutrition program, the housing program, health benefits. This costs the government billions of dollars every year because of people who can work, but choose not to for whatever reasons. I've seen people use food stamps that drive way nicer cars than me, live in nicer homes, dress better than me. Something seems wrong there.

              We should be helping our elderly and disabled. Those are the ones that need more public assistance, not the young and able bodied. I was not for cutting social security, because I do believe our elderly need this to live on and for many, it's the only source of income they have.

              I do not think the super wealthy need to be paying more taxes, but taxation is very complicated. I think the middle class get probably the worst deal. I don't think being financially wealthy that you should be forced to pay for people who can work and do not, rather just sponge off the government.

              I also do not believe healthcare is a right, rather a privilege. However, it should be much more affordable and have greater flexibility. In a capitalistic society, this means there needs to be more healthcare options to choose from - supply and demand and then you would have fairer pricing. In a healthy capitalistic system, the prices will adjust to be fair.

              We are a nation of laws (sorry if I'm repeating myself - multitasking) and I believe current laws need to be enforced period. If you caught speeding, you get a ticket (unless the officer has mercy on you). Pay the ticket. That happened to me. It stunk, but I broke the traffic law with speeding and the consequence was a $200+ ticket, traffic school or get a point on my driver's license. Do the crime, pay the fine or time.

              Looting, vandalizing, murder, aggravated assault, these are all crimes and should be punished. Imagine if someone didn't like your opinion and came to rob your home, deface it, harm your kids and you. Is that acceptable?

              Anyway, with each of the points, I could write a lot more, but I just don't have time. If there's something specific you want a greater explanation on, let me know and I'll try to be clear. I've written this over the course of a couple hours doing different other things for my family, so my thoughts may be a little scattered.

              I'm okay with anyone's views whether they disagree or agree with me. I'm for having a dialogue or discussion to understand other people's point-of-views. I just sometimes am leery of sharing my own views in many areas due to the intolerance of differing views. Thank you for asking respectfully.

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              • beequeen
                beequeen Doing 3 cheers 2017-05-16 15:55:00

                @ligemst

                You expressed your views thoroughly and with great conviction.

                While I am not in agreement with much of what you said, I respect your right to believe as you do, and your right to express it.

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          • Captain Bones
            Captain Bones 1 cheers 2017-05-16 08:34:31

            @ligemst Ugh!

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            • ligemst
              ligemst Done 0 cheers 2017-05-16 13:14:38

              @Captain Bones So what part of the very long entry that I wrote you didn't like? That I'm a decent, courteous, tax payer who raises awesome kids, donate to those less fortunate than me, that I'm educated, ,was a successful mechanical engineer for years, live in peace with my neighbors, can live with and listen, tolerate views of others different than me? That I'm honest and don't steal from companies?

              Or the fact that I'm not intolerant, that I don't vandalize other people's property, that I don't sponge off the government and am able to support my own living, or that I just have different views than you?

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              • Captain Bones
                Captain Bones 2 cheers 2017-05-16 15:29:10

                @ligemst My "Ugh!" was an abbreviation of what I was feeling and wanted to say, but figured I could express it with one simple sound to convey my mood, and that I assumed anyone could understand. Obviously, you didn't. I should have figured as much. So let me state it in terms that I hope will get through to you. Everything you write is a long-winded self-aggrandizing bag of misguided crap. In every one of your boring posts, you are overly praising yourself. For the latest example, just look above, "I'm a decent, courteous tax payer who raises awesome kids." Get over yourself. And please leave your religion out of your ramblings. It's dis gusting and has no place on SNS. Yes, people who voted for Trump are all idiots, and you are definitely one of them. Now, does that clear it up for you?

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                • Stephanie
                  Stephanie Done 0 cheers 2017-05-17 23:02:35

                  @Captain Bones @ligemst has very interesting, worthwhile things to say. If you don't like her, or disagree with her, don't read her comments? She has just as much right to be here as you do. I'm actually disappointed in you, I thought you were a cool person. No need to be rude.

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                  • Captain Bones
                    Captain Bones 0 cheers 2017-05-18 01:04:37

                    @Stephanie I disagree with you wholeheartedly. She has nothing interesting or worthwhile to say. She's like a big gas balloon with a whole in it that keeps farting in everyone's face. I'm not disappointed in you, because I never thought you were a cool person. If you don't like what I have to say, don't comment on it. Clear?

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        • aenea
          aenea Done 1 cheers 2017-05-16 04:58:25

          @beequeen Bill Gates today indicated that he thinks the world is steadily getting better, not worse, in a commencement address of sorts. He also highly recommended the book The Better Angels of Our Nature: Why Violence Has Declined by Steven Pinker, and now it's trending on Amazon.

          I think if I were a multi-billionaire, I'd think the world was on a rosy upswing too. it's an interesting notion however. Perhaps if it gets enough buy-in, it will appeal to our better natures and become true.

          Bill Gates told new grads to read this book. Now it’s surging on Amazon.
          The billionaire philanthropist is dispensing some free advice on social media.
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          • spatz
            spatz Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-16 17:27:48

            @aenea From what I've gathered, he refers to thing like child mortality being on the decline, or the eradication of polio. That's getting better for sure.

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    • Captain Bones
      Captain Bones 1 cheers 2017-05-13 09:59:35

      @beequeen Have you ever been to France? Rudeness is deeply and culturally ingrained. It took forever to find staff for Euro Disneyland that could be polite. Once when the leader of France insulted Queen Elizabeth then came to England on a state visit, the headline on London's top newspaper said, "Tell Rude Frog to Go Home." While rudeness seems to be a growing trend throughout the world, I'm happy that I live in a country where politeness is deeply and culturally ingrained.

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      • Airos
        Airos Done 3 cheers 2017-05-13 18:30:28

        @Captain Bones I have been to France and did not find that to be the case. Maybe that is just me. I know the French are a proud people and proud of their language, so I started every conversation with "Excusez mon franรงais S'il vous plaรฎt" then did my best to convey what I needed in French. Many times they would reply in broken English and I would do my best to use French and insert English words when I wasn't sure. They seemed to appreciate I was making an effort, rather than just walking up and speaking English or asking "parlez vous anglais?" Probably didn't hurt that I am Canadian, many French people asked where I was from and that got a favourable response.

        I have to wonder after considering this question for a bit. Perhaps some people encourage rudeness whilst others discourage it. In most cases rudeness is a response is it not?

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        • beequeen
          beequeen Doing 0 cheers 2017-05-15 21:04:32

          @Airos I see your point re tit for tat, like generates like. There is truth in that. I also still see proof of that every day. Its the devolution of that that concerns me.

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          • Captain Bones
            Captain Bones 1 cheers 2017-05-15 22:54:53

            @beequeen In some cases, "tit for tat" may be a response, but with the French, that doesn't hold water. I, and many, many people have seen rudeness merely for the sake of rudeness.

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        • Captain Bones
          Captain Bones 0 cheers 2017-05-15 22:47:35

          @Airos Having been to France several times, I found the French extremely rude (There were, of course, exceptions). I had studied French, but was not fluent, and my accent was far from perfect. On one occasion, I happened to ask a stranger if he spoke English. He said, "Non." So I proceeded to speak French. He stopped me and said in English, "Your French is terrible. It is hurting my ears. You are destroying our beautiful language. Alright, I will speak English for you." Stating examples of French rudeness can go on and on, either from my own experience or from so many others, with no provocation other than, for example, asking a question or for a glass of water in a restaurant. In any other country, this would not elicit a rude response, however, in France, rudeness is cultural. What I mentioned above about Euro Disneyland was true. It took an extremely long time to find enough French workers who weren't rude. They were even considering hiring outside of France. The French are universally known for being the rudest people in the world. If you didn't experience world famous French rudeness, then you were one of the lucky ones.

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      • cluricaune
        cluricaune 3 cheers 2017-05-13 22:29:39

        @Captain Bones I've been going to France for nearly 20 years on my holidays now, and I haven't found that about the French at all.

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        • Captain Bones
          Captain Bones 0 cheers 2017-05-15 23:03:04

          @cluricaune In many cases, some people are lucky to have not experienced the famous French rudeness. In other cases, it's "water off a ducks back" and soon forgotten about. And in other cases, people may be rude themselves and all seems normal. Then there are some who are more sensitive to ill behavior. The times I went to France, I didn't live where I live now, but I lived in a small town where, for the most part, people weren't rude. Now, I might be even more sensitive to it, because I live in, perhaps, the most polite country in the world, and rudeness is all but not heard of.

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          • cluricaune
            cluricaune 0 cheers 2017-05-16 19:29:54

            @Captain Bones You must be delighted to live in the most polite country in the world. Given how polite you're being about the French, you can obviously trace your ancestry back many generations.

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            • Captain Bones
              Captain Bones 0 cheers 2017-05-16 23:05:29

              @cluricaune Thank you. Yes, I can trace my ancestry back many generations, to 3 different countries. The one I live in now, I was not born in, but have been here 37 years. Do I detect an air of sarcasm in your post? I feel I have neither been polite nor impolite about the French in my stating my own experiences or what is widely felt throughout the world toward them. Are you seriously telling me that you have never heard that the French are internationally known as the rudest people in the world? Just google "French rudeness," and you'll see example after example. In fact, I just did that before I wrote this, and this is the first post I saw: "OK, I know it's a generalization to say all French are rude, even though we've all heard that, but on a recent trip to Paris, my fiancee and I were met by rude and arrogant service almost everywhere we went. We were respectful and polite, only to be met by rude and arrogant attitudes from shop owners, waiters, people at tourist information desks, metro information desks, tourist sites, and so forth. In the three days we were there, I can seriously count only three people who were polite and helpful. For such a beautiful city, the attitude of those working in the tourist industry sure needs a shift. I live in a major tourist city, and our local workers would be fired if they treated customers in that manner. We will not be back." To be fair, I did meet many wonderful French people both in and out of France. Some, I have maintained a lasting friendship with for many years. But it is those overpowering bad experiences that seem to take hold of my memory and hold sway over it. To be sure, I hope to return to Paris one day. It certainly is a beautiful city with a lot to see and experience. However, though I may hope, I will not expect a change in the French attitude.

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 0 cheers 2017-05-15 20:25:01

        @Captain Bones

        I have been to France. The only place there where a few people were rude was in Paris, but there was a metro strike on, a postal strike and three big conventions in the city that weekend. Parisians were probably just cranky in general. One young fellow on the metro even came up and apologized on behalf of France; he'd witnessed an older man being rude to us when we politely asked a simple question about directions, in French. The older man made fun of our French and then told us to get the hell out of his country. The young man said "His generation gives us all a bad name!". LOL

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        • Captain Bones
          Captain Bones 0 cheers 2017-05-15 23:06:51

          @beequeen I recently met an American woman married to a Frenchman. They lived outside of Paris. She said her husband's father came to dinner and couldn't stop insulting her: cooking, housecleaning, clothes she wore, hair style, etc. She said it's just the French way. It's part of the culture.

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