Say "no" every time i feel like it and not feel guilty

i get myself into so much crap because i don’t just say no

So I have this freelance job and the pay is sooooooo terrible. My boyfriend insist that I complain to my boss but I’m afraid to do it because I’m afraid of confrontations and I’m afraid that my boss will think of me as greedy. So now I’m looking for another job and will quit once I get a regular job at a company. I know I don’t have to feel guilty for finding a new job then quitting because he doesn’t pay me right. We agreed on a certain amount and when payday came he still paid me so very below minimum, I travel for almost two hours in heavy traffic, spend a lot of money for transpo, and also my boss promised that I’ll be payed monthly instead of the usual per drawing that we do but then he backed out of it too. I hate my job and I will say no if my boss offers me another freelance work! No matter how much I want to work. I will risk my days finding another job!

I always end up putting myself last because I cant say no or Im too afraid of disappointing someone. I end up tired, resentful and feeling guilty if i do say no, or if i say yes and do what i never wanted to do in the first place.

its time to put me first sometimes and realize that its okay to do a few things for me. and its okay to miss out on a few nights. I just need to be up front about how I feel and what I want to do from the beginning, so no one is getting disappointed. then i wont have to feel guilty.

It’s not like I can’t say no to things that are obviously bad for me, but often I’ll find myself in situations where I am going to extreme lengths to do things for people when really I should be doing things for myself. I often inconvenience myself greatly for people who I don’t really know all that well and I hardly get any credit for it.

I just need to learn to say no. It’s really that simple.

Ok so I have this employer who pays half of the minimum amount I should be receiving. He says he’ll be paying more for the next job he have for me. I want to ask him first how much he’ll be paying before I say yes to his work but I need to do this without feeling guilty because I deserve to get the right payment for the amount of work he’s giving me! Hmm.. Getting ready for this.. I hope I find the right things to say so he won’t feel any disrespect coming from me. This is so hard!

It feels good saying no to people,it took me a long time to realize people do not mind saying no to me i so i started doing it to them.

I did this on the weekend. Felt guilty for about half an hour, then decided that I had a much better time by saying no and doing what made me happy! I have far too little spare time to waste it at the moment doing things that I feel obligated to do.

I can never say no to people so this would be a great goal!!!

I need to take care of myself and that means I need to say no more often to things. I need to feel that saying yes is the only way the people will like and respect me.

I can say no much more easily now, it’s great!