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  1. 1. Learn from the past, set vivid, detailed goals for the future, and live in the only moment of time over which I have any control: now.
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  2. 2. have intellectual intercourse
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  3. 3. stop taking things out on my family
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  4. 4. Celebrate acccomplishments and success
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  5. 5. go to a nude beach
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  6. 6. pay off my student loans
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  7. 7. see the northern lights
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  8. 8. Become Financially Independent
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  9. 9. Travel, travel and travel some more
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  10. 10. record my dreams
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  11. 11. identify the top ten stressors in my life and systematically eliminate them one by one
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  12. 12. identify 100 things that make me happy (besides money)
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  13. 13. Help my daughter to cope with dyslexia and be a better reader
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  14. 14. live a simple, happy and inspired life
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  15. 15. Worry less.
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  16. 16. get out of debt
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  17. 17. go out on "date nights" with my spouse on a regular basis
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  18. 18. Practice Gratitude
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  19. 19. stop holding grudges
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  20. 20. Make 2008 my best year yet
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  21. 21. react with grace and patience in every situation
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  22. 22. learn wing chun
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  23. 23. have more sex
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  24. 24. lose 20 pounds and keep it off
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  25. 25. stop saying I'm sorry
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  26. 26. read "classic" books
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  27. 27. Survive and prosper during the lean times ahead...
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  28. 28. Strive to be part of the solution and not the problem......
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  29. 29. overcome depression
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  30. 30. meditate
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  31. 31. get a new cell phone
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  32. 32. get paid to blog
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  33. 33. List my favorite movie quotes
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  34. 34. Eat a salad (and one fruit) a day
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  35. 35. Become a professional photographer
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  36. 36. organize my photos
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  37. 37. Start my own business
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Recent entries
get out of debt (read all 4 entries…)
Negotiating with Creditors/Debt Collectors 1 week ago

Saw this article and thought some may find it useful:

By Bankrate.com

When you bargain with a debt collector, you’re going head-to-head with a tough, professional negotiator. Following these tips can help you come out ahead.

Learn your rights.
When collecting a debt from you, a debt collector must play fair. For details, check out this consumer brochure on fair debt collection from the Federal Trade Commission.

A free consumer brochure on debt collection also is available from the National Consumer Law Center. Call NCLC’s publications department at (617) 542-9595 and ask for a copy of “What You Should Know About Debt Collection.”

Many states have their own debt collection laws. For more information, contact the attorney general’s office in your state.

“When you know your rights, debt collectors know they can’t get away with certain things,” says Gerri Detweiler, author of “The Ultimate Credit Handbook.” “They’re less likely to try aggressive tactics.”

First things first
Prioritize your bills.
No matter what a debt collector says, an unpaid credit card bill is not the most important bill you have to pay this month. Providing necessities for your family comes first.

“It does not make sense to put yourself in a position that you can’t pay necessary bills,” Detweiler says.

Estimate how much you can pay and offer less.
“Don’t do anything you can’t afford to do,” says John Ventura, consumer attorney in Brownsville, Texas and author of the e-book “Stop Debt Collectors Cold.” “And don’t do anything dangerous.”

Avoid sending postdated checks to a debt collector or agreeing to automatic electronic payments from your checking account.

“Presuming goodwill on the other side gets people in trouble,” Ventura says.

Don’t tell them your life story.
“Don’t go into a lengthy explanation of why you can’t pay,” Detweiler says. “They don’t have a lot of sympathy. This is what they do for their job. They hear down-on-your-luck stories day in and day out.”

Control the information flow
Keep private information private.
Don’t give a debt collector personal information such as where you work, where you bank or your checking account number.

“Say as little as possible and stick to the facts,” Detweiler says.

Stay calm and focused.
No matter what a debt collector says, keep your cool and stay focused on the negotiation.

“The more in control you sound and the less you fall apart, the more likely you are to get what you want out of the negotiation,” Detweiler says.

Tape the call if you can.
Flicking on a tape recorder is a great way to keep a debt collector in line. Plus, you get a record of the call.

Thirty-five states and the District of Columbia allow you to secretly tape your phone conversations. In the other 15 states, you can tape with the other party’s permission. And if you tell the debt collector you are going to tape and he or she keeps talking, that’s considered giving permission.

“Taping the conversation may keep them on their best behavior,” Detweiler says.

Take notes.
File all collection letters and keep detailed notes of collection calls. Note the day and time of each call, the name of the collection agency, the first and last name of the caller and what was said.

“Make sure there’s a record,” Ventura says. “If you’ve made a deal with them, get proof.”

Get proof of payment agreement in writing.
“Get it in writing,” says Jerry Jarzombek, a consumer attorney in Fort Worth, Texas. “If they told you half of it satisfies the obligation and that’s what you want to do, have it in writing.”

Send a letter to the debt collector outlining the payment agreement. You’ll want to send this letter via certified mail so you’ll receive a receipt once the letter is delivered. Keep a copy for your records.

If you plan to pay by check, add the following disclaimer: “Cashing this check constitutes payment in full.” Write this right on the check.

Timing it right
Wipe your credit clean.
Ask a debt collector to remove any negative information they’ve placed on your credit report. At the very least, insist that your account be listed as paid in full rather than paid in settlement. Once they agree, get it in writing.

Don’t be rushed.
A debt collector will push and push for you to send them money immediately. Don’t do anything until you have confirmation of a payment agreement in writing.

“Because you need it in writing, you have to resist all those demands and quick offers to do it overnight,” says Mary Fons, a consumer protection attorney in Stoughton, Wisc.

Negotiate at the end of the month.
Because commissions for debt collectors are based on what they do each month, you may want to try negotiating near the end of the month. You could land a really good deal.


Help my daughter to cope with dyslexia and be a better reader (read all 6 entries…)
Ok... 1 week ago

Paid for extra math and reading classes for the Summer…. to the point that my little girl complains she has not had a Summer at all. Grrr…

I am a fan of work but I have to say that she has really hussled and worked so much it breaks my heart. I think the willingness to do what she needs and to not just quit, is more important than all the classes she has taken. Have to say that I am impressed with my little girl.


Survive and prosper during the lean times ahead... (read all 3 entries…)
Weird... 1 week ago

Lately I have kind of felt like I am really being challenged by the universe.

I tell my kids that we don’t have enemies but I am running into a few folks at work who for whatever reason are really competing with me for the same niche with the end result being that not all of us will survive there.

Add to that financial woes and worries and a recent lighning strike on my house causing phone and internet and TV’s to go out and I am wondering what I have done recently to piss off the powers that be.


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