JudithKD "..it's the try that counts. Win, lose, or draw

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We don't party, 7 months ago

we don’t go on dates together (DH and I), we don’t take vacations, we don’t socialize in short. Others are NOT involved in our lives to any extent at all.

I think to replace my family, I need to alter this. I need to get DH and I to act more like a “couple” than we do, go out on dates, take “getaway” trips, etc. And we need to invite people to the movies, to our house, to go to galleries or whatever with us. None of those things are things we do, and if I’m going to replace my family’s place in my life, I need to involve and be involved with others.

jkd

Mar 30, 02:42PM PDT | 13 cheers


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Myself is content

Just make sure you enjoy the process. Choose things you and DH would like to do, and have fun.

Mar 30, 03:20PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

JudithKD "..it's the try that counts. Win, lose, or draw

Well, yeah of course!

But we just haven’t for a long time. And there’s too many things to do, interesting people to meet, photos for DH to take, etc. for us to spend time doing this with people we wouldn’t like or doing something we wouldn’t enjoy.

Somehow, when we moved to NH, we just stopped socializing. I used to host brunches and we’d go eat with folks, but we haven’t done it here, and we’ve been here for over 15 years.

When I had the store, I didn’t want to socialize afterwards, so that accounts for 9 years of it. We simply have not made the friends here as we did in Florida and CA.

Thanks for the encouragement!

((hugs))

jkd

Mar 30, 04:35PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

Myself is content

If you come to Brazil, you’re invited to go out with us. :)

Mar 30, 04:58PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

JudithKD "..it's the try that counts. Win, lose, or draw

You're on...

I’ve never been to South America, but if I get there, I’ll be sure to let you know.

Thanks again!

jkd

Mar 30, 05:03PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

RuthG is missing her dog Sleep--here Sleep! come home Sleep!

Definitely a good idea.

Sharing your life-as-a-couple with others is very enriching.

I’ll cheer you on as you get back in the habit!

Mar 31, 01:52PM PDT | Respond to this 6 cheers

JudithKD "..it's the try that counts. Win, lose, or draw

Thanks Ruth!

I’ve missed the socializing as a couple in many ways!

I emailed my next door neighbor today. There’s an eco-fest in the local college town 4/19, and I asked them if they wanted to catch a meal together if they were going. (He’s very into ecology issues.)

I unfortunately hadn’t checked my calendar, DH has a photo shoot that day, and depending on where it is, that may take him all day, sigh.

But I asked!

Blessings—

Judith

Mar 31, 03:10PM PDT | Respond to this 2 cheers

JudithKD "..it's the try that counts. Win, lose, or draw

I haven't heard from my neighbors,

and DH’s photo shoot may take him so far away that I really can’t do this at all.

:0(

Maybe I can find us a square dancing or line dancing class. Not that I expect we’d get into it a lot, but it’s a lot more casual than ballroom dancing, and you don’t have as much to learn. What I remember about square dancing in school was that I thought it was a lot of fun. I don’t know if DH ever did it?

I’ll have to ask!

jkd

Apr 05, 06:34AM PDT | Respond to this 2 cheers


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