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No. Actually, I don’t think that “quick” fall in love lead to true love.
I’m still quite young, but I believe that my answer is relevant all the same.
Had one relationship in which I had a gut feeling that we were together only as a way for him to get over his ex.
Even if he didn’t know it at the time.
I knew he wasn’t good for me & tried my best to push him away but he was persistant.
Within a month I ended up falling for him. He said he loved me. Beautiful words but with a bitter after taste.
Then two months later he smsed me
[yes, the most cowardly thing possible]
saying he had feelings for another girl.
It was the stab in the heart that I was anticipating.
We’re still friends but it was even harder for me to open my heart to anyone afterwards.
HOWEVER, MY ANSWER IS YES.
I have had a good experience with falling in love quickly.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months [and a bit =)] with many wonderful memories of love and laughter as well as hard times which we conquered together.
We’ve been through a lot of crap but stuck together through it all.
We’d been friends for years.
I never knew that he was the person for me until one night I realised how much I trusted him and how in tune we were with one another.
Then we spent every single day together and quickly fell in love which was like a dream come true but now that uni has started i only see him once a week.
It hurts very much but through love we’re able to enjoy our time apart and enjoy our time together even more.
It felt right then.
It still feels right now.
*smiles
Sorry for the rant.
Generally quick love is infatuation..but its that which can progress into real love…. I believe its possible
Hi Kevin…I fell in love with my fiance in about 4 months…We had been friends for a while before we started dating though. My mom and dad met and married in 8 months…and 37 years later they are still togethor and even more in love…If you know 100% that it’s right, then go for it…I would not date anyone that I wouldnt marry and I wouldnt marry anyone that I couldnt spend the rest of my life with…I hope this helps! God Bless! Emi
Good point. If you are both people who want to love and have a heart to do it well and to really cherish the other, than it will happen at its own speed!~
I’m going to give this its time, I think
: )
Thank you for your answers! You are all giving me wonderful things to think about : )
Hi, its funny that you ask about my experience with falling in love because I just got engaged a week ago =D therefor I can’t complain. We have been going out for 2 years and ill tell you that love works in mysterious ways, its a different experience for each person. So you have to use your judgment and your brain when it comes to love.
No, he broke my heart within three months. It was, intense, exciting and amazing, but burnt out super quick.
That depends on what you mean by “quickly”. A few days? A few weeks? A few months? A few years? My experience and everyone in my family’s experience all coincide (and there is no history of divorce in my immediate family, by the way) – the people we love we knew we loved immediately. IMMEDIATELY. It takes time for the love to grow, though, and as two individuals grow and change the love changes and deepens. So yes, I’d say I have had good experiences with falling in love quickly, but just because the process started quickly does not mean it ended quickly. I am constantly falling in love with my S/O over and over again, and my parents (who have been married almost 30 years) would say the same thing about each other.
good question.
just before i start. i have already attempted to answer this question 4 times !!! i keep deleting the text and writing again lol.
basically. i havn’t fell in love with a person. however now you may be thinking “why has he classified it as ‘done’”. well simply because i have fell in love with:
Life
without life we cant go on that trhilling rollercoaster, experience the droplets of icicles experiencing the warmth transformation from winter to spring. the beautiful sights accross the world!. the many cultures and languages, simply life is the love i need. but this wasn’t exactly a love gathered by the click of the fingers, no. its about realisation, that life is the love i need, in order to enjoy life, and without wanting to waste my life, or simply not enjoy it. i have grown a love for it =)
as a saying once said
“lifes not about waiting for the storm to pass….it’s about learning to dance in the rain”
you may have been looking for a difference answer from people, however i feel i have given you the most honest answer you will find.
Jay
This is just an amazing insight. Thanks so much for writing it.
one brief more answer, take whos ever advice suits you. as there is more than 1 type of love, so expect more than one answer, but as for this “quick” love the first person spoke of. then this is what i have to say:
sieze oppertunities in life. if you feel like you “love” someone, then ofcourse you must be getting along with that person really well, so progressing from there is much easier than if you dont “love” someone. basically, it would be more wise to progress a relationships with someone you felt you love, than if you dont. it makes perfect sense, so “carpe diem” sieze the day.
Great answer! It’s a lot easier to make a good lastig relationship with someone who loves being with you and loves you!
I know that being relaxed and calm and caring is very important to this (about a billion times as important as how quickly it happens!)
exactly. this “quick love” is still love, simply quick :D basically showing that you too must be a good match, but as always its not set in stone, things always happen thats why people are so criticle (dunno how to spell that =D ) about people who fall in love quick. it simply shows your a good match and i think you will go far dude. the length of time it takes to fall in love means nothing. its about how long you are in love that counts. good luck and best wishes Kevin.
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Fall IN love quickly… Fall OUT of love quickly. It happens every time.
I’ve only met one person that I think I could honestly say that I loved them and I still have a strong connection with them, through everything we’ve been through, but chances are against you that something will last a while.
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Thank you for your answers! You are all giving me wonderful things to think about : )
I’m still very interested in what everyone has to say, and I’d love to take good advice.
Thank you, everyone.
I’ve always found it best to fall in love over a longer tim, that way you can be sure it’s love and not just the initial phase of attraction that most people go through.
I would say with my fiance, I fell in love quickly, and working out the relationship took longer. And then I fell in love again. :-) I guess you could say I didn’t really fall in love the first time, but it certainly felt like it.
I like to think I fell in love, and over time the love deepened. But like anything real and good, you have to work at the deeper love. There is much more understanding on both sides, the deeper the love is.
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Yes yes and yes! And now i’m marrying him! Follow your gut instinct all the way and if you are a person of sound mind you will not be wrong. My only advice is that you HAVE to be secure in yourself and your life and happy being alone before you can truly experience and appreciate love and being with another person. The reason people don’t understant “falling in love quickly” is because for many people it’s not love—it’s dependence, lust, competition, whatever. A lot can g wrong if you don’t come into a relationship with all your own “issues” sorted out. But if you’re ready, there’s no point in holding back or waiting for time to pass or all that crap. Let it happen, and whichever pieces don’t fall into place, be rally really ready to work your hardest to communicate and make it AWESOME.
