I really believe what I wrote, and now I will explain why, in a phrase by phrase manner.

(a)If you want to fall in love and be close with someone, then go get it, make it happen!

Love is out there, and obtainable, and wonderful. Active participation and desire for romance and closeness are totally essential to it happening.

(b)Don’t just sit there silently and hope something happens.

Inaction and resignation can have absolutely no part in this. They run contrary to love (and even love between friends!) Love is an active process and a choice. To love well, we run to the one we would love and embrace them (once again, even our friends.)

(c)Show some love to someone who wants it, and love will come back to you.

Love and desire for closeness do not matter to someone who doesn’t want them, so throwing your affections at someone who does not care for (or even really about) you is the same as submitting an assignment to the wrong class. If you want to love another, make sure that the “another” you’ve chosen is someone who will care for you as well, and wants to be close.

As to your point about desire being misleading I say this:

Feel free to pursue the one you don’t desire! What? I know very well that it is not always right to initiate romance, and my post assumes that this hurdle has already been addressed. It’s sort of like reading a tutorial for “how to do – ” and saying “but I don’t want to do – !”

If you want this and have it in you, and you’ve chosen one who loves you back, then it will come out, either as weak sauce (indecision) or as desire leading to closeness (awesomesauce).

Is this substantitively different or more/less convincing than before?